People are all different

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For me is irrelevant what other choose, they are people just like me and that’s enough.

As far as I understand, the whole point is that some people don't think it's irrelevant and discriminate others based on their sexuality (or lack thereof). So they make it public and open up about it to show that it is not bad and lots of people are like that - that's kinda the whole point of the pride parades I think?

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There will be always people that don't like you because you are different . Because is a personal and private subject. They feel they can judge . So is like feeding them. We have to protect of private and personal word. I don't agree is the way.

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Eh I mostly agree with you but if you really expand the scale of it all I think it starts to at least make a little more sense why some smaller groups pop up now and then raising awareness for one specific proclivity or the other. Actually it has a lot to do with what you just expressed I think.

It sounds like your opinion about preference and rejection comes from a place of self confidence. That's a good thing but I'm sure you can imagine how that could be harder for people who don't understand themselves and their own feelings as well.

For many people, sexual preferences are not a big personal issue that will cause them a great deal of stress in their day to day life. For some, the very fact that they do not align with their peers can make things really uncomfortable and uncertain especially around the more formitive years of establishing who they are as a person even just in their own mind.

Even heterosexual people have to achieve that introspection but we get the benefit of having lots of personal relationships with similar leaning people to build our frames of references.

Sometimes that is also an optuion for the more common non-heterosexual variations but that is mostly thanks to the greatly increased social presence which has the simultaneous effect of reducing the general stigma around such topics.

The more successful these groups oh like minded people become in projecting their influence the less they need to do so but most of the groups who championed these causes over the last decade or so realized how powerful an impact just growing awareness had for so many people that would otherwise have no support from their peers and while it's not quite as necessary to raise awareness as much for the most common members (the L-esbians, G-ay, B-isexuals...) the rest are still trying to catch up with the leading edge of the awareness movement.

TLDR, the spreading of broad awareness isn't so much about labeling themselves for people who don't care as it is for the benefit of others who feel the same way but don't know they have peers that can help them understand themselves.

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Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it's just the "physical" aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it's never tied to a particular person or body part. The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not "in the mood" to eat anything

Thank you. This actually really cleared up the middle row of the comic for me.

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They don't want to have to hide who they are, make up lies, etc. They are demanding the right to be who they are. I think it's great.

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100%.

I'm all for acceptance but broadcasting your sexuality is strange and unnecessary. I understand there's some need for it, but the amount of shit on Lemmy about your sexual orientation is overboard. I don't care or want to know who you fuck.

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I've never understood it the other way around, you definitionally have to have your cake to eat it.

What one wants to do is eat the cake and then still have it...

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Those people are called bigots and we should continue to expose and ridicule them for their idiotic biases.

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Gay couples shouldnt have to stay secret, trans people shouldnt have to stay locked in their homes.
I deserve to exist as a human in public.

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I guess it always felt the same to me as when they said I'd eventually want a baby.

When I was younger and living in a conservative area, it seemed like I was broken. where people often started conversations by asking about my husband/boyfriend/crush before hitting oh, you must be one of those weird women who doesn't want husband/house/kids. a lesbian. (you'll obviously eventually want sex and progeny. to do otherwise is just... immature, especially in a woman.)

When I was older and had moved to an area with a lot more different kinds of folks and it came up less, it's just who I am. if some wiseass thinks they know better about how I feel - well, they're definitely not relationship material. not even friends.

and it's a spectrum. I currently have a partner I see every 6-8 weeks, which works for us. but for decades it would be easier to say I was ace than try to explain the circumstances where that might change.

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So it's the sexual attraction that's missing, but not the sexual drive? or is it more of a spectrum?

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It's one thing to openly be a happy gay couple, and another going to excessive lengths to make sure everyone witnesses you as gay.

A minority will fight back, because no one can please everyone, but for most people, it's as annoying as straight people making being straight most of their personality. We don't care, just make the world better by being happy with yourself.

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What do you expect to get from society when you show your sexual or non sexual preference?

wait until you find out about what straight people do every day.

It's hard to have an entire intimate relationship with someone, entirely privately. Thus the fallacy of "just go fuck people in private" yeah, everyone does, good point bro. I'm sure this will meaningfully change the path of the argument going forward, oh wait this is just a classic nazi run-around statement.

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Ironically enough, lots of people throughout my life have claimed that I'm asexual (but i am not), in fact, almost assured me that i'm asexual. It's really funny if it wouldn't be so hurt-causing how wrong people can be sometimes.

(I was in love with a girl and later found out other's have told her i'm asexual behind my back even though i am not.)

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That is not what the ace of spaces generally connotes.

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wait until you find out about what straight people do every day.
I agree with you on that, and for me thats disgusting . It's not a matter of the orientation is exhibiting your sexuality. I have some friend that are typically male alpha blah and they don't talk with me about how many girls they fucked last time because they know I don't care. I have gay friends that are almost sex predators and they talk in a way sometimes I have to stop them. I think the issue is more related to how people stopped taking care of theyr personal life and they have to show all in a supposed effort of freedom. But that's not freedom . Freedom is not having a government punishing you because your sexual orientation . You can't do much about society. You are no sexual teachers. You are not anyone to tell how the other needs to think.

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They are not just bigots, they are people that were rised with a poor point of view and they attach to the point of view of others without having a criticism mentality. They just repeat . Like religion. The problem if you expose your private life as a cost, society is fucked up and doesn't matter people will always criticize you. No matter if is of sexual orientation or if you don't like football. Or alcohol.

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I totally agree. But the solution i think is not exposing yourself. And not because one is gay or not. Its because is your private life, it's a double-edged weapon. I repeat, not just exposing if you are gay or not, anything that is my sexual life, i keep it private. Because is part of your "sacred temple" or those tings that makes you unique. I think the fight should be without exposition, because we are talking about RIGHTS, human rights, no need of self exposition, is what we deserve as humans beings. Everyone.

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Bigotry thrives on ignorance. By coming out and speaking up, people are actively challenging a status quo that enables such ignorance.