People are all different

[zess@lemmy.world]

Those people are called bigots and we should continue to expose and ridicule them for their idiotic biases.

[triflingtoad@sh.itjust.works]

Gay couples shouldnt have to stay secret, trans people shouldnt have to stay locked in their homes.
I deserve to exist as a human in public.

[ellabee@sh.itjust.works]

I guess it always felt the same to me as when they said I'd eventually want a baby.

When I was younger and living in a conservative area, it seemed like I was broken. where people often started conversations by asking about my husband/boyfriend/crush before hitting oh, you must be one of those weird women who doesn't want husband/house/kids. a lesbian. (you'll obviously eventually want sex and progeny. to do otherwise is just... immature, especially in a woman.)

When I was older and had moved to an area with a lot more different kinds of folks and it came up less, it's just who I am. if some wiseass thinks they know better about how I feel - well, they're definitely not relationship material. not even friends.

and it's a spectrum. I currently have a partner I see every 6-8 weeks, which works for us. but for decades it would be easier to say I was ace than try to explain the circumstances where that might change.

[triflingtoad@sh.itjust.works]

So it's the sexual attraction that's missing, but not the sexual drive? or is it more of a spectrum?

[teamassimilation@infosec.pub]

It's one thing to openly be a happy gay couple, and another going to excessive lengths to make sure everyone witnesses you as gay.

A minority will fight back, because no one can please everyone, but for most people, it's as annoying as straight people making being straight most of their personality. We don't care, just make the world better by being happy with yourself.

[killingtimeitself@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

What do you expect to get from society when you show your sexual or non sexual preference?

wait until you find out about what straight people do every day.

It's hard to have an entire intimate relationship with someone, entirely privately. Thus the fallacy of "just go fuck people in private" yeah, everyone does, good point bro. I'm sure this will meaningfully change the path of the argument going forward, oh wait this is just a classic nazi run-around statement.

[gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de]

Ironically enough, lots of people throughout my life have claimed that I'm asexual (but i am not), in fact, almost assured me that i'm asexual. It's really funny if it wouldn't be so hurt-causing how wrong people can be sometimes.

(I was in love with a girl and later found out other's have told her i'm asexual behind my back even though i am not.)

[apytele@sh.itjust.works]

That is not what the ace of spaces generally connotes.

[therealjcdenton@lemmy.zip]

Make War not Love

[geography082@lemm.ee]

wait until you find out about what straight people do every day.
I agree with you on that, and for me thats disgusting . It's not a matter of the orientation is exhibiting your sexuality. I have some friend that are typically male alpha blah and they don't talk with me about how many girls they fucked last time because they know I don't care. I have gay friends that are almost sex predators and they talk in a way sometimes I have to stop them. I think the issue is more related to how people stopped taking care of theyr personal life and they have to show all in a supposed effort of freedom. But that's not freedom . Freedom is not having a government punishing you because your sexual orientation . You can't do much about society. You are no sexual teachers. You are not anyone to tell how the other needs to think.

[geography082@lemm.ee]

They are not just bigots, they are people that were rised with a poor point of view and they attach to the point of view of others without having a criticism mentality. They just repeat . Like religion. The problem if you expose your private life as a cost, society is fucked up and doesn't matter people will always criticize you. No matter if is of sexual orientation or if you don't like football. Or alcohol.

[geography082@lemm.ee]

I totally agree. But the solution i think is not exposing yourself. And not because one is gay or not. Its because is your private life, it's a double-edged weapon. I repeat, not just exposing if you are gay or not, anything that is my sexual life, i keep it private. Because is part of your "sacred temple" or those tings that makes you unique. I think the fight should be without exposition, because we are talking about RIGHTS, human rights, no need of self exposition, is what we deserve as humans beings. Everyone.

[echolynx@lemmy.zip]

Bigotry thrives on ignorance. By coming out and speaking up, people are actively challenging a status quo that enables such ignorance.

[djdarren@thelemmy.club]

Your comment was a triumph!

[ephera@lemmy.ml]

People use the phonetic shortening "ace" to refer to asexuals. And then some asexuals leaned into that and use playing card suits to indicate how their stance on romance is. So, an ace of hearts indicates someone who's not into sex, but does enjoy romance. Whereas the ace of spades (being kind of an upside-down heart) says that they enjoy neither sex nor romance.

[cataphract@lemmy.ml]

You're completely missing the opposite though. Should straight-cis-whatever be just as private? How does that work with media and entertainment? What types of relationships are being used to tell a story and how does that effect someone watching? You can't just say it should stay Private when every piece of our society-fabric is woven with hetero storytelling/traditions.

A traditional marriage is a heterosexual parade (even have throwing shit and jumbling cans behind the car so everyone knows!).

Also, I'm not sure you're aware of this (I guess), but most people in history just don't come out exclaiming their sexual preferences. They were outted and condemned by the communities and people in it. They suffer in silence while those around them judge and make their lives harder (or end them). You can't ask a whole swath of people to stay "private" while others celebrate their relationship openly, I don't even understand how you can equate all of this together honestly. This just seems like a "don't dress provocative if you don't want to be raped" kinda view.

[savvywolf@pawb.social]

I think it varies from person to person, so yeah, more of a spectrum. I'm not ace myself and don't follow the community that closely so I'm not sure the exact definitions.

[apytele@sh.itjust.works]

Except with black men lol (I mostly kid, but it is definitely a thing for people with certain very politically incorrect fetishes).

[penguin202124@sh.itjust.works]

I'm making a note here, the comment was a huge success!

[feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world]

I have a sex