People are all different

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wait until you find out about what straight people do every day.
I agree with you on that, and for me thats disgusting . It's not a matter of the orientation is exhibiting your sexuality. I have some friend that are typically male alpha blah and they don't talk with me about how many girls they fucked last time because they know I don't care. I have gay friends that are almost sex predators and they talk in a way sometimes I have to stop them. I think the issue is more related to how people stopped taking care of theyr personal life and they have to show all in a supposed effort of freedom. But that's not freedom . Freedom is not having a government punishing you because your sexual orientation . You can't do much about society. You are no sexual teachers. You are not anyone to tell how the other needs to think.

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They are not just bigots, they are people that were rised with a poor point of view and they attach to the point of view of others without having a criticism mentality. They just repeat . Like religion. The problem if you expose your private life as a cost, society is fucked up and doesn't matter people will always criticize you. No matter if is of sexual orientation or if you don't like football. Or alcohol.

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I totally agree. But the solution i think is not exposing yourself. And not because one is gay or not. Its because is your private life, it's a double-edged weapon. I repeat, not just exposing if you are gay or not, anything that is my sexual life, i keep it private. Because is part of your "sacred temple" or those tings that makes you unique. I think the fight should be without exposition, because we are talking about RIGHTS, human rights, no need of self exposition, is what we deserve as humans beings. Everyone.

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Bigotry thrives on ignorance. By coming out and speaking up, people are actively challenging a status quo that enables such ignorance.

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Ephera

People use the phonetic shortening "ace" to refer to asexuals. And then some asexuals leaned into that and use playing card suits to indicate how their stance on romance is. So, an ace of hearts indicates someone who's not into sex, but does enjoy romance. Whereas the ace of spades (being kind of an upside-down heart) says that they enjoy neither sex nor romance.

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You're completely missing the opposite though. Should straight-cis-whatever be just as private? How does that work with media and entertainment? What types of relationships are being used to tell a story and how does that effect someone watching? You can't just say it should stay Private when every piece of our society-fabric is woven with hetero storytelling/traditions.

A traditional marriage is a heterosexual parade (even have throwing shit and jumbling cans behind the car so everyone knows!).

Also, I'm not sure you're aware of this (I guess), but most people in history just don't come out exclaiming their sexual preferences. They were outted and condemned by the communities and people in it. They suffer in silence while those around them judge and make their lives harder (or end them). You can't ask a whole swath of people to stay "private" while others celebrate their relationship openly, I don't even understand how you can equate all of this together honestly. This just seems like a "don't dress provocative if you don't want to be raped" kinda view.

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I think it varies from person to person, so yeah, more of a spectrum. I'm not ace myself and don't follow the community that closely so I'm not sure the exact definitions.

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Except with black men lol (I mostly kid, but it is definitely a thing for people with certain very politically incorrect fetishes).

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I have a sex

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But we already have that? The term is "being hungry". Hunger and appetite are 2 different things, that's why we have 2 different words for them

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Locker room talk doesn't literally have to happen in a locker room, it's just slang for talking about womens sex appeal whilst in a group of men without any women present

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There should just be another category so that people who are not on this spectrum can more easily understand (and therefore, hopefully, empathize), AND these categories should be used more often.

Asexual kinda denotes ONLY having no sexual desires, lust, urges, etc. and therefore will just confuse people. Both Ace of Spades and Ace of Hearts fit this.

But if you actually are lusting after people... Then it would be better there be something different to help understand that, such as Sex Repulsed / Forced Urged (You have lust but absolutely no desire to do anything, like feeling hungry but don't want to eat nasty food) or even just Low Libido (very rarely feel anything related to lust).

There is for example Demisexuals, which is for people who only can feel sexual desires with someone they form an intimate bond with (which I agree is a spectrum of asexuality as there's absolutely no lust until there is) But there isn't anything for people who do lust but either very little or are repulsed by it, as far as I know. There's not an absence of lust in those cases at any point, just a lack of want or amount.

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Interestingly I can agree on the grossness of it, only when "the mood" arises a kind of nasty turns into attractively naughty. It's a strange alteration. Like the new texture of a food you might find somewhat repulsive at first suddenly becomes highly addictive or desirable when you give in to it. The sleazy feeling of wanting to keep popping bubble wrap plastic without stopping.

This differs based on time, context (persons) and general mood.

I wonder if at a base level we have kind of the same attitude, but the hormonal alteration or lack thereof is what creates the differences and clouds my mind while yours stay sharp.

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Maybe you should stop being friends with sex predators. Being gay does not prevent you from being an abusive asshole, and should not shield you from being called out if you are one.

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I suspect the cause is that the the layperson couldn't wrap their head around the original version (because it's supposed to be a paradox) and ended up switching it around to "make sense"