I'm using PHPStorm/Intellij Ultimate and the only way it seems to work for me (on Windows, can't remember if it worked on OS X) is to use a remote Node.js debugging session. If I don't do this, it get's stuck on the minifier stage.
Here is my run configuration and there is my remote debug configuration. These are configurations in a plugin project so this only allows your to debug your project files. To debug NodeBB modules you have to run/debug from the NodeBB project.
After that you just run the Run configuration and debug the remote debug configuration when needed.
FYI: Visual Studio Code worked with debugging right out of the box.