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banshee@midwest.socialreplied to phineas_rage@lemmy.world last edited by
I’m white, and married to a black woman. Gotta say, this is pretty accurate. Add shitty service from wait staff when the white person a table over gets regular checkups, and doctors not taking anything she says seriously, even when her symptoms are obvious. And people being rude to her when she asks a question, but nice to me when I ask them the same question a moment later.
It’s one thing to know, in abstract, that racism exists. But experiencing it through what my wife goes through on a daily basis has really opened my eyes. It feels like we exist in 2 separate worlds when we’re not out together.
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koboldcoterie@pawb.socialreplied to banshee@midwest.social last edited by
doctors not taking anything she says seriously, even when her symptoms are obvious
I’m married to a white woman, and she also experiences this, so this might be a gender discrimination problem, rather than (or in addition to) a racial discrimination problem, sadly.
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ERROR: Earth.exe has crashedreplied to phineas_rage@lemmy.world last edited by
Don’t think I ever saw this. But then again I’m in a blue city, so there’s that.
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teslasaur@lemmy.worldreplied to phineas_rage@lemmy.world last edited by
Last question is pretty legit though. Isn’t there data of how many black kids grow up without a father?
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droggelbecher@lemmy.worldreplied to banshee@midwest.social last edited by
To add: some of the comics, as well as your, examples are good examples of intersectional discrimination. To take a particular one: the doctors-not-taking-you-as-seriously thing happens to all women. But it’s much worse for black women in particular. And it’s also not as bad for black men as it is for black women.* So, that’s an issue she’s facing in this severity because she’s black AND a woman. There are many such intersectional issues, and it’s important to acknowledge and work against them. Anything related to children is similar.
- I remember that from a statistic, I’ll try to look it up if anyone would like me to
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callouscomic@lemm.eereplied to teslasaur@lemmy.world last edited by
And you’d likely still find that out using the same question from the left.
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gravityowl@lemm.eereplied to koboldcoterie@pawb.social last edited by
I think it’s both. It probably starts with gender discrimination (as the medical field highly favors men. Look at the differences in how we are taught about heart attacks for men and women for example) but then on top of that, it adds the racial discrimination.
Black women (and especially queer black women) are among the most discriminated groups sadly
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thejml@lemm.eereplied to koboldcoterie@pawb.social last edited by
Same here. Even women doctors have been shitty to my white wife over things that should be obvious or at least taken seriously.
I can only imagine black women have it worse and that makes me pretty furious considering what I’ve already seen.
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ѕєχυαℓ ρσℓутσρєreplied to koboldcoterie@pawb.social last edited by
It does depend on gender, but also on race. Even many of the medical procedures are inherently racist, since they were developed mostly with white men in mind. Especially anything that calls for visual checks can be very biased.
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cm0002@lemmy.worldreplied to koboldcoterie@pawb.social last edited by
Yea, that part is a gender discrimination issue, some doctors will refuse to even tie a woman’s tubes if they’re “too young” saying shit like “What will your future husband think” and if they are married already even saying shit like “You’ll need your husband’s permission/need to be present”
It’s disgusting.
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thejml@lemm.eereplied to teslasaur@lemmy.world last edited by
Plenty of white guys that ditched, divorced, etc their partners after getting them pregnant as well.
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massive_bereavementreplied to phineas_rage@lemmy.world last edited by
I'll give you a bonus one:
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gravityowl@lemm.eereplied to teslasaur@lemmy.world last edited by
If you have no data about the “fact” (I wish I could highlight even more how much that is NOT a fact) and are asking users to provide evidence that supports that to you, maybe the question is not legit then, is it?
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draghetta@lemmy.worldreplied to phineas_rage@lemmy.world last edited by
Are you guys ok over the pond? I thought every panel after the second was just silly but then I read the married guy’s comment…
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kaitco@lemmy.worldreplied to positivewhat@lemmy.world last edited by
I can’t speak to the ones about holding babies because I try to generally avoid that, but I’m a black woman, and I feel these to the depths of my soul.
I remember some girl in college literally asking me “Oh, are you from a broken home?” It took me a minute to even understand the question.
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We’re both Eastern Europeans in Western Europe, so not visible minorities until we open our mouths.
We were recently house hunting, and my wife is the sole earner.
I can’t count how many times we had to explain that, or how many times we were disadvantaged against people with the opposite situation. When we applied for a joint bank account with both of us working, guess whose name they put on the account. Or try getting hired without getting asked about your family situation. For her, it always comes up in “small talk” in interviews, very obliquely of course. For me, maybe six months to one year into the job.
On the other hand, she opens the street door every time there’s a heavy delivery, as they don’t try to have her carry heavy cargo to our apartment like they do to me, despite it being paid for.
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jettrscga@lemmy.worldreplied to teslasaur@lemmy.world last edited by
BREAKING NEWS Racism is now okay. Forum user suggests there’s probably even data backing it up.
Even if the data showed an insane 95%, it doesn’t justify treating an entire race differently. To me it seems weird that we still track that kind of data separately by race.
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natakunox@lemmy.worldreplied to teslasaur@lemmy.world last edited by
Lol that’s a stereotype. One parent not being in the picture is a poverty thing. Not a black thing. Since poverty disproportionately effects black Americans out seems like it’s a black problem but it’s a system of oppression problem.
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dexa_scantron@lemmy.worldreplied to gravityowl@lemm.ee last edited by
That’s why the term “misogynoir” exists. It’s both, and they pile on and increase each other.
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taiyang@lemmy.worldreplied to phineas_rage@lemmy.world last edited by
Here’s a bonus I saw at college: “Can I touch your hair?” it’s an especially weird one.