I posted the following on Facebook this morning, and Facebook immediately removed the posting:

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@Canevecchio I like that term, a German word I hadn't known, but can puzzle out by putting its pieces together in my hand. "Family of choice" we often say, contrasting it with family of origin. Yes, one can choose and build family and in the process, distance oneself from abusive families of origin. For many of us, this has long been a cecessity.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@zetabeta Yes, I agree.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@JustRosy Thank you. I appreciate the affirmation.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@humanhorseshoes @Nazani I've had editor after editor of my manuscripts inform me that the s's usage is not acceptable.

[jawarajabbi@mastodon.online]

@wdlindsy

Zuck did just take that meeting with Trump.

[savvyhomestead@mastodon.social]

@wdlindsy

Disconnected because I's exhausted and preparing for the impending disaster. Some family was brainwashed by a MAGA church, while others were lured into the snake-pit by the bar & bowling alley tribe. Nothing else to say to them. They have entered the FAFO zone.

[peachfront@toot.community]

@wdlindsy

this should have been done long ago

fascists are not family, they are the thieves of life & hope who want to deny us equal opportunity, health, & freedom

shunning them is our only peaceful alternative since for thousands of years of human history (for all but a few decades!) they have made life miserable & not worth the trouble of living for the majority of humans

the only thing that has EVER slowed them down IN ALL THAT TIME is making it clear they're uncool & unwelcome

[murodegrizeco@toad.social]

@wdlindsy

It sucks and it is terrible.

To be brought repeatedly to the realization that the ones you trusted have grown into monsters, who are far more interested in meanness and grievance than their own family.

[brucetheknife@newsie.social]

@wdlindsy I totally get that. I definitely lost some connection by deleting my account. It was just nauseating to log on though.

[davidpnice@mastodon.online]

@wdlindsy Gay New Yorker friends have just spent time with family in Miami, to see to their well-being, but fled before Thanksgiving and told them why.

[sharonecathcart@sfba.social]

@wdlindsy It took about two seconds for the same thing to happen to me.

[bebadefabo@mastodon.social]

@wdlindsy we cut ties with a lot of folks after 2020. This year we've doubled down. There's plenty of people out there that are not supporting a descent into authoritarian fascism and we'll spend time with them. I think it's important to now tho, that just cutting ties isn't enough. You need to let them know why you're cutting ties. It's also best to do it as a group.

[johnlogic@sfba.social]

@wdlindsy apparently the heads of Meta/Facebook and Alphabet/Google flew their private jets to Mar a Lago and back to meet privately with president elect Trump and apparently now we see somewhat less freedom of speech that is critical of him via those platforms. What a surprise.

[invinciblesugar@baraag.net]

@wdlindsy I see your point, and it's true that family dynamics can be complicated. But for me, Thanksgiving is an opportunity to set aside differences, even if just for a day, and focus on what unites us—love, gratitude, and turkey.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@InvincibleSugar It's wonderful that some families or family members have the ability (or privilege) to set aside differences and eat together amicably.

Some families and family members clearly do not have such privilege.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@johnlogic Yes.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@bebadefabo Yes, I agree.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@sharonecathcart I'm sorry that happened — if you mean you found yourself at odds with your family after the election. I'm assuming you mean Trump-voting relatives have made you an outsider? I may be misunderstanding, and, if so, apologize for doing so.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@davidpnice I can totally understand.

[wdlindsy@toad.social]

@brucetheknife I definitely understand.