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I wanna encourge shoplifting, but not sure if that's a good idea since that might get the person killed...
(Should be encouaging them to shoplift?)
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You might find some success with a token system. A kid earns a ātoken,ā and when they obtain a certain amount, they can earn a bigger reward. For example, you could draw a smiley face on a dry erase board every time the kid completes a required task. Once the kid gets 10 smiley faces, they can choose a reward for it. Preferred activities (such as playing a game, taking a trip to the park, or watching an episode of their favorite show) or being able to have a favorite snack, work for a lot of kids. The best call is to make a list of simple rewards that you know your kid enjoys and offer them choices from that list once they gain enough ātokens.ā
It not only serves to satisfy the need for a dopamine spike when a task is done, but it also teaches delayed gratification and decision making for the child. They learn how to work toward a greater goal through taking small actions. Giving them a choice in what they earn gives them space for some autonomy, while curating what choices are available gives you, as a parent, the ability to work within what youāre able to provide in that moment.
It sounds like youāre part-way to such a system already, which is why it came to mind. Token systems are already commonly used in schools and in childrenās therapy practices, so there are resources available if youāre interested in giving it a go.
Fully aware - we've tried it before, but it didn't stick. Probably implementation issues or limitations here. They do this in his school with great success, and I think part of it is that he's so extroverted that when there are other kids also competing, he finds the process more engaging. At home it's just him so it falls flat. Maybe if me and mom were also on the chart earning smiley faces it would hit harder. Sounds kinda fun too.
Daddy made it to ten, get ready for an episode of Loudermilk!
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Fully aware - we've tried it before, but it didn't stick. Probably implementation issues or limitations here. They do this in his school with great success, and I think part of it is that he's so extroverted that when there are other kids also competing, he finds the process more engaging. At home it's just him so it falls flat. Maybe if me and mom were also on the chart earning smiley faces it would hit harder. Sounds kinda fun too.
Daddy made it to ten, get ready for an episode of Loudermilk!
That sounds like a fun twist on it! I like the idea of including the parents, it shows that we're all responsible for our own actions, as well as capable of mistakes and improvement regardless of our ages.
I totally get what you mean about him being more motivated when other kids are around. I've worked with kids in a number of different positions over the years. Sometimes it's easier to handle a group of 20 than a single individual, specifically because peers influence each other.
I can't offer much more besides my support from afar, but from what I've read in this thread, you're doing a great job. Either way, raising a kid isn't easy, but it sounds like you've informed yourself and are doing the best that you can. Thank you.
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Hold out a Ā£20 note and set fire to it in front of them. You know, like some of our politicians did when they were in uni.
Wasn't it a Ā£50 note?
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pulls out a money bag complete with the dollar sign on it
See, the guy is better prepared for carrying cash than I am. Here you go
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What do you mean by this? Every interaction I've had with the homeless has been, at worst, slightly awkward. I have been lucky to not encounter any homeless people with severe mental instability, but they are pretty rare.
Sounds like you are emphasising the possible bad outcomes and making it seem like it's the norm.
Obviously it's not the norm, even if there are certainly some people out there that can react badly.
I can understand your pessimism, and I'm certain you were not intentionally trying to be negative or make the homeless seem somehow less able to be reasonable, but your comment did give that impression.If you are struggling to see the good I saw this video recently in defense of optimism that actually gave me a bit of a pick me up. I'd recommend if you have the time.
He is thinking of panhandlers, they sit on the side of the road with signs and often get aggressive with people. Same scam as the people with the squeegee bottle and the towel for your windshield. These people uaually arenāt homeless and are just scamming.
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Big homeless has infiltrated
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In the US: Yeah, just about every barbershop I've ever been to only accepts cash. Sometimes they accept card, but there's an extra charge and you have to wait until they find where they put the machine. And generally the barbers themselves seem to prefer cash.
Also, food trucks and food stands? Not all of those accept cards.
Where i am small vendors like food trucks or small pop uo shops generally use etransfer.
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Lol you clearly haven't met homeless
I've been homeless.
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He is thinking of panhandlers, they sit on the side of the road with signs and often get aggressive with people. Same scam as the people with the squeegee bottle and the towel for your windshield. These people uaually arenāt homeless and are just scamming.
Yeah. That's my experience, not everyone begging is homeless, and not all homeless beg. Some 30% of homeless people have jobs.
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I've been homeless.
Well I've been a home. 2 families lived inside me
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You don't have to respond to the sign. Just walk on by.
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He's clearly choosing how to respond.
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Perfect timing on my scrolling:
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I wanna encourge shoplifting, but not sure if that's a good idea since that might get the person killed...
(Should be encouaging them to shoplift?)
I mean if you have the strength to lift a whole shop go ahead. I ain't stoppin ya.
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My spouse was recently asked for cash by a woman when walking down the street. We never carry cash. The next day that woman was in the news for armed robbery of a convenience store.
I am not sure what to make of that. The people asking definitely need it though. You could be preventing them from doing something desperate. But at the end of the day it's your bit of money to do what you want.
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He is thinking of panhandlers, they sit on the side of the road with signs and often get aggressive with people. Same scam as the people with the squeegee bottle and the towel for your windshield. These people uaually arenāt homeless and are just scamming.
Ah, in that case this may be a difference between the UK and the US. We get pan handlers and windscreen cleaners here too. And yeah, some are probably a scam, but most windscreen cleaners I've seen at traffic lights will just smile and move on if you just shake your head or hold up a hand and smile. Pan handlers are generally the same here. Not a lot of aggression, but I'm certain there are a few exceptions to that around.
Thanks for the answer btw, I know you aren't the person I originally responded too, but I was genuinely curious to know what they were thinking about
