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People still carry change or cash in general?
There is a little known law in France that requires you to be able to pay a first class fine (about 35€) on the spot. If you cannot you'll be arrested.
As you cannot always pay with a card as not every cop has the required system, that mean you have to carry that arround in cash. -
Okay so, caveat: mine is only six and they're the stereotypical hyperactive ADHD kid. Your mileage will likely vary.
Kids who are like him are constantly in need of something to be doing, some achievable task just within their grasp. Also, they're quite blind when it comes to the perception of time, so any amount of time spent "bored" (which means not rocketing towards the next moment in which they can shout in triumph) feels like an eternity. He can go from the throes of bliss to collapsing on the floor within ten seconds flat.
He damn near broke my brain with this shitshow, but I've finally figured out the foregoing. Knowing this puts the constant struggle at least into a coherent frame of reference.
All this to say, any and all tangible, immediate rewards are what serves him in place of a functional endogenous dopamine system. He can't just internally think "I need to get dressed for school" and begin to do it, it has to be "I'm not allowed to ____* until I get dressed". A coin isn't a coin, it's a physical embodiment of the dopamine spike used by the brain to initiate a task.
Once they're on a task, they just go until something breaks the spell. Small immediate rewards, or the promise of getting them easily can work magic.
That's all highly subjective, biased, likely flawed etc but it's kept me... If not sane, at least faking it enough that people don't comment. If your kiddo has other struggles I probably haven't said anything of use to you.
*In our case, unhappily, it is phone time, which is also highly regulated.
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That sounds like a fun twist on it! I like the idea of including the parents, it shows that we're all responsible for our own actions, as well as capable of mistakes and improvement regardless of our ages.
I totally get what you mean about him being more motivated when other kids are around. I've worked with kids in a number of different positions over the years. Sometimes it's easier to handle a group of 20 than a single individual, specifically because peers influence each other.
I can't offer much more besides my support from afar, but from what I've read in this thread, you're doing a great job. Either way, raising a kid isn't easy, but it sounds like you've informed yourself and are doing the best that you can. Thank you.
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Hold out a £20 note and set fire to it in front of them. You know, like some of our politicians did when they were in uni.
Wasn't it a £50 note?
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pulls out a money bag complete with the dollar sign on it
See, the guy is better prepared for carrying cash than I am. Here you go
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What do you mean by this? Every interaction I've had with the homeless has been, at worst, slightly awkward. I have been lucky to not encounter any homeless people with severe mental instability, but they are pretty rare.
Sounds like you are emphasising the possible bad outcomes and making it seem like it's the norm.
Obviously it's not the norm, even if there are certainly some people out there that can react badly.
I can understand your pessimism, and I'm certain you were not intentionally trying to be negative or make the homeless seem somehow less able to be reasonable, but your comment did give that impression.If you are struggling to see the good I saw this video recently in defense of optimism that actually gave me a bit of a pick me up. I'd recommend if you have the time.
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Big homeless has infiltrated
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In the US: Yeah, just about every barbershop I've ever been to only accepts cash. Sometimes they accept card, but there's an extra charge and you have to wait until they find where they put the machine. And generally the barbers themselves seem to prefer cash.
Also, food trucks and food stands? Not all of those accept cards.
Where i am small vendors like food trucks or small pop uo shops generally use etransfer.
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Lol you clearly haven't met homeless
I've been homeless.
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Yeah. That's my experience, not everyone begging is homeless, and not all homeless beg. Some 30% of homeless people have jobs.
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I've been homeless.
Well I've been a home. 2 families lived inside me
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You don't have to respond to the sign. Just walk on by.
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He's clearly choosing how to respond.
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Perfect timing on my scrolling:
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I mean if you have the strength to lift a whole shop go ahead. I ain't stoppin ya.
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My spouse was recently asked for cash by a woman when walking down the street. We never carry cash. The next day that woman was in the news for armed robbery of a convenience store.
I am not sure what to make of that. The people asking definitely need it though. You could be preventing them from doing something desperate. But at the end of the day it's your bit of money to do what you want.
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Ah, in that case this may be a difference between the UK and the US. We get pan handlers and windscreen cleaners here too. And yeah, some are probably a scam, but most windscreen cleaners I've seen at traffic lights will just smile and move on if you just shake your head or hold up a hand and smile. Pan handlers are generally the same here. Not a lot of aggression, but I'm certain there are a few exceptions to that around.
Thanks for the answer btw, I know you aren't the person I originally responded too, but I was genuinely curious to know what they were thinking about
