Just being polite
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Speaking from a US cultural standpoint, most people don't do this though. Because of this if someone asks "how are you doing?," there is a script that runs in my brain that just translates it to mean "Hello."
There's nothing more soul crushing than showing emotional vulnerability and then promptly being told you're a burden and have misinterpreted abstract social signals. Always better to just...not
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Yeah, I couldn't stand it during my short stay in Atlanta, that everyone was just using "how are you?" instead of a simple "hello", and then were getting pissed, when I actually talked about how I felt
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Yeah, I couldn't stand it during my short stay in Atlanta, that everyone was just using "how are you?" instead of a simple "hello", and then were getting pissed, when I actually talked about how I felt
How are you bro?
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It's more of a British thing, but "alright mate?" is used as a greeting. If someone takes it literally and tells me how they are, then that's super cool, because it just saves me asking my second question.
That said, on the few occasions I've visited the US, I've greeted someone with an "alright dude" and they've looked at me a bit puzzled like "...yes?" which is cool too.
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Speaking from a US cultural standpoint, most people don't do this though. Because of this if someone asks "how are you doing?," there is a script that runs in my brain that just translates it to mean "Hello."
There's nothing more soul crushing than showing emotional vulnerability and then promptly being told you're a burden and have misinterpreted abstract social signals. Always better to just...not
I, on the other hand make it a point to brutality answer the intended question for shock and awe value in the hopes people stop being so stupid asking those questions. It's always fun seeing people panic and thinking where they can go hide to stop hearing about all the uncomfortable stuff I'm telling.
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It's more of a British thing, but "alright mate?" is used as a greeting. If someone takes it literally and tells me how they are, then that's super cool, because it just saves me asking my second question.
That said, on the few occasions I've visited the US, I've greeted someone with an "alright dude" and they've looked at me a bit puzzled like "...yes?" which is cool too.
I don't know what your talking about, I live in the most American part of America (That being Texas of course) and we use "How ya' doin'. All right" all the time.
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How are you bro?
welp our country is imploding
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How are you bro?
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It's more of a British thing, but "alright mate?" is used as a greeting. If someone takes it literally and tells me how they are, then that's super cool, because it just saves me asking my second question.
That said, on the few occasions I've visited the US, I've greeted someone with an "alright dude" and they've looked at me a bit puzzled like "...yes?" which is cool too.
? American's aren't expecting a literal response, it's a greeting here as well. I think you misread the speaker, or more likely, they misread you. Maybe they thought Brits would take it as a literal question?
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I often answer the question, but only a sentence or two. Then I ask what's up with them.
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I don't know what your talking about, I live in the most American part of America (That being Texas of course) and we use "How ya' doin'. All right" all the time.
“How you doing” and “appreciate you” are different though than someone straight out asking “you okay?”
Some times it can sound like you are somehow presenting that you are not ok and can throw you off.
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You can answer honestly but it's a greeting, not an invitation to take over the whole conversation to talk about yourself.
Them: "How are you doing"
You: "Pretty bad to be honest, but I'm hanging in there"
And from there you either get:
Them: "I'm sorry to hear that I hope it gets better"
You: "Thanks"
Them: "So I wanted to ask about your TPS reports..."
Or :
Them: "Oh no, what's going on?"
You: "Well I'm having a lot of mental health issues..."
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Sameisch here, but we don't talk much if i don't want to know how you are doing.
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“How you doing” and “appreciate you” are different though than someone straight out asking “you okay?”
Some times it can sound like you are somehow presenting that you are not ok and can throw you off.
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Def sounds like context. If someone lobs a “you okay”? I take more concern but I can dig it. Different strokes for dif folks
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For me, I find this happens:
"Hi, did you find everything ok?"
"Good".
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Good. That'll teach them not to ask such deep questions of a stranger. If they want to get all personal with someone who doesn't know them, they should face consequences.
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Ah yes, I had forgotten the basics of the internet here! You're absolutely right, inflections matter - and that's absolutely what's probably causing the confusion.
I generally greet with an upward inflection, generally found in questions and essential in most Latin languages.
It does throw people. Generally resolved with a bit of friendly politeness and writing it off to the accent.
