Every single time

[dudeimmacgyver@kbin.earth]

Is this a strawman?

[feelzgoodman420@eviltoast.org]

Wife bad, amirite?

[undulyunruly@lemmy.world]

Full-on witchcraft advice going on here, lads. Stay away.

[podperson@lemm.ee]

Wait - I am muted on a conference call. Let me unmute to laugh.

[agrivar@lemmy.world]

and the OP is a troll who's been posting various levels of mask-on to full-racist memes all over Lemmy.

[where_am_i@sh.itjust.works]

True. Nonetheless, "women bad" memes aren't a valid replacement. Please, kindly proceed to 9gag.com to find a community of like-minded individuals.

[novamdomum@fedia.io]

There's a relationship cheat code I use all the time. It usually stops everything in it's tracks and sets you on a much more positive path, especially if they're not used to you doing this. When you find yourself at that point in a conversation where you're about to shout something like "OH FFS! WHAT'S THE MATTER NOW?!" instead... you pause, look at them, tilt your head a bit, narrow your eyes thoughtfully and say as calmly as you can "What do you need?". No matter how mad they get after that you just keep asking that question until they respond to it. If you haven't done that before it may take them a while to even notice you asked that question. Just keep going. Oh also top tip... when they tell you what they need don't invalidate it. It's hard for a lot of people to directly tell you what they actually need. If they do then they're trusting you to listen. Breaking that trust will take you right back to square one.

[prof@infosec.pub]

A lot of people never had positive role models when it comes to sharing their feelings.

When I started dating my now wife, she would sometimes ignore me for a week if we got into a disagreement, just because she couldn't tell me what's bothering her and be real with her own emotions.

She's grown a lot since then and when there's inevitably a new argument we can resolve it very quickly now.

Communication is important, but it's something you have to learn.

[5pacebar@lemmy.world]

Certified boomer shit

[horse_battery_staple@lemmy.world]

They told you the problem. It may not have been a verbal demand but they've absolutely told you that something is wrong. Or there's a pattern that's been occurring. Or fuck you everything sucks right now. It doesn't matter why someone is defensive there are ways to deescalate what the fuck is happening and work out what's wronf together.

If you can't work that out with your partner when they're overloaded or upset about work or hungry or elevated you need to figure your shit out. Not all communication is verbal. You have to learn to work in crisis together no matter how big or small.

When my partner flips their shit I ask them what they need and agree that we should do that. And listen to them and figure out if we are solutions oriented right now or just venting. And I validate them.

We're a team. We can do this together.

[bruhduh@lemmy.world]

What if you physically attacked by that person tho?

[revanthetrueemperor@lemmy.world]

Well stop trying to make this relationship work, pack your bag and run.
If you are in this situation i hope it will get better for you!
good luck.

[bruhduh@lemmy.world]

Thank you)

[snowclone@lemmy.world]

Not true my shitty ass marriage of mutual animosity has lasted almost two decades. So... I got that going for me.

[slovene@feddit.nl]

Inconceivable!

[lurch@sh.itjust.works]

Then it's finally time to get the plate mail. Fool me once, you can't get fooled again.

[tfw_no_toiletpaper@lemmy.world]

I'd rather be single than have that. My sister has a weird couple as friends, they're always so hostile and sarcastic to each other, constantly arguing. Why anyone would stay willingly in a relationship like that is beyond me.

[tfw_no_toiletpaper@lemmy.world]

Because its

and I am glad that most here dont find it relatable

[obi@sopuli.xyz]

Wife bad amirite fellas upvotes to the left <-

[croquette@sh.itjust.works]

You look them in the eye and kiss them tenderly. It might be their kink.