One time, I was asked to be in a magazine photoshoot.

[apbblue@thepit.social]

@autumn My office is casual, but not THAT casual, sadly.

[autumn@triangletoot.party]

@APBBlue time for a new job! </sarcasm>

[skinnylatte@hachyderm.io]

@autumn @APBBlue I want to not need to wear pants at all.

[joannaholman@aus.social]

@skinnylatte the way I’ve described my experience to people is that while I’ve never felt like I’m anything other than female it feels like most of the feminine software didn’t install right

[skinnylatte@hachyderm.io]

@joannaholman I really like that

[farah@beige.party]

@skinnylatte Girl why are you in my head?

I feel exactly the same about my clothes and fashion. The most femme I feel whenever I wear dresses. Most of them are flowy and shapeless.

[skinnylatte@hachyderm.io]

@farah hey I found this and it helped me visualize what I should try. Was never able to before I saw these diagrams

Rectangle Body Shape: A Comprehensive Guide | the concept wardrobe

Learn how to recognise and dress the rectangle body shape to achieve a balanced silhouette. Make sure to check out all body shapes that apply to you.

(theconceptwardrobe.com)

[m@autistics.life]

@skinnylatte I suspect you did it for the same reason I and so many other autistic people would have. Masking to avoid conflict, or to avoid being judged, or seen as different.

[skinnylatte@hachyderm.io]

@m yes and there is a lot of performative gender in my case. I don’t care anymore but at the time I could not opt out

[recursive@hachyderm.io]

@skinnylatte this thread is so relatable

Both on the autistic comfort thing, and just not really strongly relating to overtly masc or femme fashion

It's been a weird journey to start to both understand what I think looks good and what I think makes me happy with fashion. My experience when I was younger made me think people didn't enjoy fashion and just did it for other people ... and yet I'd occasionally see someone who seemed to be really enjoying it

[seafury@aus.social]

@skinnylatte @farah I am this shape and I never knew I needed this...

[skinnylatte@hachyderm.io]

@SeaFury @farah me too until I came across this page!

[seafury@aus.social]

@skinnylatte I've always thought I was "barrel" shaped - this is why I like wearing my motorcycle gear (with all the armour) I have an androgenous "cyberpunk" body image. @farah

[dillyd@turtleisland.social]

@SeaFury @skinnylatte @farah
Have I found my people? Rectangle/blob sounds about right

[seafury@aus.social]

@dillyd :bunneawwheart: @skinnylatte @farah

[skinnylatte@hachyderm.io]

@SeaFury @dillyd @farah yay I don’t feel so alone anymore