@darkpixlz @julian @baris These are all fair comments in my view, and most of this is about personal preference. The thing that really put me off Discourse was Docker, but that's just my view (and one I've always stuck to). I did look at Discourse some time ago after departing the Flarum ecosystem, and settled on NodeBB for a number of reasons - one being a developer myself it was easy to extend, and the other was that I didn't need to start learning Ruby et al when I already have a good working knowledge of NodeJS, so the choice was pretty obvious for me.
Again, my views entirely, and I'm not here to try to influence anyone otherwise. I do however find value in comparing the two products - not so much as saying I want to jump ship as that's not going to happen (I run three NodeBB sites - one being non-public), and I'm certainly not into "bashing" competitive products, as that isn't at all fair on those who have invested blood, sweat, and tears into creating a system for millions of others to enjoy for free. In fact, I applaud those that have taken a huge leap and give up their own free time for something like this. I've done it before in the past, and still do with my own forum as it's designed to assist others for free.
My only other comment here would be exactly what does the 20i "award" give you? My quip about a farcical accolade in this case was more around "who will actually read the voting and use it to make an informed decision?" All of us in the FOSS world know that in reality, it's recommendations from other professionals and enthusiasts, contributing to repositories, creating extensions/plugins - and most importantly, a general appreciation for the product, it's ecosystem and those who keep it fed and watered on a daily basis.
All of these ethics apply to both NodeBB and Discourse (and probably Flarum too). Circumventing any system in terms of increasing votes for what is essentially a pointless survey to increase the profile of the creator and expand it's own reach seems like a fruitless exercise to me