I keep hearing about the formational influences of terrible fathers and grandfathers on their terrible progeny (Trump, Musk, Mel Gibson, et al.). Okay. Fine. It's not nothing. It explains a little of why they are the way they are. But, this feels too much like an excuse for bad behavior. I see this rationale applied almost exclusively to powerful, wealthy, privileged white men.Both sets of my grandparents were full-on racist, judgemental, physically and emotionally abusive, unusually cruel people. My grandfather used to brag about how he killed a man and got away with it.However, both my mother and I fought against those patterns, and had to establish for ourselves how we saw the world, our compassion and empathy for others, and what constitutes a healthy relationship (because the opposite was modeled for us). It was exceedingly difficult for my mom, but she made it easier for me by deciding to be the exact opposite of her parents. I was able to see the contrast quite vividly.So, I never want to hear "Well, it's just his generation."Even my dad was able to crawl out of that toxicity, though much later in life My mom was way ahead of her time, actively rejecting racism and sexism, and even defending trans kids in the 60s. I never saw anyone else that brave back then. *steps off soapbox*

@kimlockhartga @TheJen @TheEddieShow @QueenOfTheCroneAge @wendinoakland same. It does make the soup super purple tho. I just steam them and put them on top

@kimlockhartga That seems plausible. And maybe also a feeling of loss of self-identity/agency.

@kimlockhartga It's all nonsense. Ignore everything he says.

@kimlockhartga @bookstodon thanks I'm similar, the price I'll pay varies but used book prices have definitely shifted in recent years - most have fallen to very low prices indeed ($1 or often much much less) but scarcer books even relatively modern printings have gotten a bit higher value and more in demand (though for collectibles the condition really matters)The stuff I'm selling on eBay are from a collection I acquired for a few books I wanted, the rest have so far covered 3-4x my costs