There's an old saying in northern Europe that “it's like choosing between plague and cholera”, still often used when faced with only bad choices. And as any know-it-all worth her salt should be quick to point out, if you have access to modern healthcare, you pick cholera.But if you don't? Over the years I thought about that a lot, and it always seemed obvious that while the more disprivileged can make things better for the more privileged, they're essentially blameless if they don't.From my imagined position of a white, cishet, neurotypical man, I felt like I would be wrong to blame them for not picking the cholera outbreak, the better one for me that's just as bad for them.I don't know to which degree this was based on selfishness. I was always quietly carrying this sad and desperate anger over being forced to live in denial of my neurodivergence and queerness.So it's a good question: What can you really demand from those who have already had cholera forced upon them?