trans women and transfem people are much more hurt by gender norms than cis women, and we're also many many times fewer

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it's unfair to expect us to outperform the average cis woman in deconstructing and "fixing" gender. it's even unfair to expect us to perform equally to the average cis woman.

and besides, if trans women and transfem people perfectly "solved" gender, then nothing would change, because nearly everyone is cis and we would have to keep adapting to their norms anyway.

but if cis people fixed gender, or even just the women, then it would change for everyone—including us, because as I said, we're so few that we would have to keep adapting to them anyway, but now it would be good instead of bad.

so expecting us to these gender norms is actually both morally and causally inappropriate. we shouldn't be expected to fix oppressive systems that we're among the most victimised by, and we couldn't do it anyway.

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so now ask yourself: how much good work does the average cis woman actually do here? against toxic gender norms and misogyny.

the average, over the whole political spectrum.

ok?

so what I'm saying is that that's more than what can fairly be expected from any of us.

we are killing it.

Jess👾

@jasmine
I agree. A disproportionate amount of the burden of "fixing society" has always landed on those who are also the most oppressed by society.... Sucks.