"Richard Stallman's problematic behavior, particularly with respect to his views on sexual harassment, sexual assault, and sexualizing minors, are best explained by his (supposed) neurodivergence, and to call for his censure on this basis is discrimina...
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@drewdevault @SuperDicq stealing a kiss is not wrong to a lot of people, in that sense you are the divergent one not him
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@sun @SuperDicq an unwanted kiss is sexual assault, and has been prosecuted as such before the law. Consent and bodily autonomy *matter*.
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Tab :godot: :git: :linux:replied to Drew DeVault last edited by
@drewdevault I consider myself neurodivergent but a psychologist so this is my uninformed opinion.
Seems reasonable that having thought processes different from the norm leads to different intuition, and different life experiences (sheltered) which lead to different beliefs.
As I understood these are now his former beliefs.
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Drew DeVaultreplied to Tab :godot: :git: :linux: last edited by
@tab he still holds these beliefs
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@drewdevault
As someone who is neurodivergent, RMS can completely fuck off.
One thing worth noting is that sometimes the least accepting/accommodating people are other neurodivergent people. After all, I managed to surpass these issues, so why can't you? TBH it took me awhile to notice the behavior in myself and start to correct it. However, I just can't square that with how much of an asshole RMS is.
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Esther Payne :bisexual_flag:replied to William Pietri last edited by [email protected]
I don't blame Drew for using the block button. You came in fairly aggressively and immediately came in in the attack.
Drew's often spoken up about abuse in tech and hacker spaces. How Drew chooses to react to aggression is up to Drew. You came in to Drew's thread .
I get you don't trust Drew and you don't know Drew. But I don't think Drew's wrong asking on here.
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Esther Payne :bisexual_flag:replied to Esther Payne :bisexual_flag: last edited by
@williampietri We've got serious sustainability issues in tech and excusing abusive behaviour doesn't help some projects long term.
We all need to take a moment and try to not react instantly. I include myself in this.
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PuddleOfKittensreplied to Drew DeVault last edited by
@drewdevault this is kind of like discussions on corporations: either you're held to moral responsibilities, or you're muzzled for the safety of others because you can't/won't restrain yourself. To permit someone to join your community is to assume they're at least capable of learning how to follow the rules, if they don't know yet. Ignoring their rule-breaking outright won't help them learn, so criticism/explaining is usually the appropriate response.
"Neurodivergent" is a broad term though.
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@drewdevault @SuperDicq The majority can be wrong yeah, it's just funny that you can't really chalk that particular thing up to neurodivergence. What else is the majority wrong about?
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William Pietrireplied to Esther Payne :bisexual_flag: last edited by
@onepict I don't blame him, but I also don't think I owed him more than he got. My reply to him was straightforward, with no invective about him and no assumptions about his motives. Try rewriting that paragraph to be about black people and see if you think that an opening like still deserves hugs from affected communities or the people who love them. Especially from a white guy who offers zero bio and zero explanation.
Depending on Drew's intent, I don't think he's wrong asking. But even assuming he's aiming to speak up about abuse, I think he's wrong to start that by opening with a studiously neutral take on a deeply harmful biased argument. There are reasons we don't casually repeat misinformation, abuse, and the like.
I also think both that behavior and his intolerance of honest reaction are going to harm even the best of the possible projects there, because it's going to bias the answers he gets significantly. Which makes me question either his intent or his competence in dealing with this stuff.
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@drewdevault honestly not much. IMO women have it way worse.
Most I can think of is one person insisted on calling me mentally ill when they learned I had autism. They got banned very quickly once it was clear it wasn't just an honest mistake (I.e. we tried explaining *why* you shouldn't do that). So I guess that's the step that helps most.
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@sun @SuperDicq the majority are not wrong. It is wrong to kiss someone without their consent. It is wrong to violate someone's boundaries and violate their bodily autonomy.
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Ásthar (Elle/They) ⛤replied to Drew DeVault last edited by
@drewdevault As a neurodivergent person myself, you lost me in the first bit, so I'm going to ask: in which way does neurodivergence explain his harmful behaviours?
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Drew DeVaultreplied to Ásthar (Elle/They) ⛤ last edited by
@asthargf it doesn't, but I stated the argument at face value to avoid colouring the discussion
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Reply to this post if you're ND and want to help review the draft of this blog post
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@drewdevault
*if* we accept the predicate of your hypothetical that it is ableist to condemn behavior explainable by neurodivergence (which I don't and I doubt you do either). The answer to me is: be ableist. I don't like it, but it's ridiculous to imagine any other option in the physical world, and it's weird to treat the virtual world so differently.
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@drewdevault
Story time: a group of school friends I was with had a new guy, Adam, enter the class. We didn't want Adam to feel excluded, so we included him in our social events. Adam had narcissistic personality disorder, likely at least in part because of this, Adam was also a serial harasser of women. So what did we do?
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@drewdevault
We stopped inviting Adam. I wish we didn't have to stop inviting him, but our hands were tied. I'm not going to say it's something only he could change, because maybe he truly couldn't change that. Maybe it was ableist to exclude him. But the safety of my friends comes first. The hard part is figuring out when this case truly applies, and when it's just social norms or tribalism casting someone different as a threat.
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@drewdevault I doubt you'll be hurting for white male autistic ND people but if you need another I'd be happy to review. It might be worth actively seeking out ND people who fall into less represented subcategories, or who have more intersectionality going on than I do.
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@ttamttam may I quote this story in full? Attributed or anonymous?