A lesson some need to learn

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So what made you think this was advice meant for corporations?

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Yeah, this kept tripping me up. I tried to be better but was always falling short and kept getting called out on promises not fulfilled. So I just stopped apologizing.

What I'm trying to say is, if a kid keeps failing to deliver on those promises constantly the parent might need to make a change in there. If not then all is dandy.

Lenny

My dad would always say "don't say sorry, DO sorry". The apology will be present in your words and actions.

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I did not. I'm using corporations as an example to explain "how things usually work". What other part of my original comment did you not understand if that was not the part you're questioning?

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And you bet that forgiveness benefits you the most. It doesn't. If someone says sorry rarely, never changes, and you are taught to keep being compassionate... you are going to lose your ability to care about people. Better to stay alert, because that person will hurt you again.

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A better father also wouldn't mix up "then" and "than"

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There are people whose entire modus operandi is to not give a shit about others in their choices and actions, apologize when challenged about it and carry on doing the same.

Their "apologizing" is just a confrontation-avoidance technique, not a genuine expression of regret.

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I didn't even notice that smh my head

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That's why I never apologize!

Victor

I think that's just one notch above what's necessary.

An apology is a promise to [try to] do better next time.

You might fail again, but it doesn't mean you did the wrong thing, necessarily. But if you didn't even try, then

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"I'm sorry, that's just the way I am!"

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That's the neat part!

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I don't know that I agree that you have to but sure that's not an unreasonable policy either. I guess it depends on the specifics for me.

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Oh you've met my "supervisor" Dave?

Why is "supervisor" in quotes? You'd know if you knew Dave.

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I tried teaching my mom that and that did not go well.

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Yeah, as a kid I had serious struggles with certain things and my parents eventually started getting angry at my apologies. That was a parenting decision of theirs that went quite poorly for me.

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"I know what I am" - princess pony head

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There are three critical parts to an apology. You have to feel regret/remorse, accept guilt and make an effort to correct it/make sure it never happens again.

If all three aren't present every time then someone isn't sorry. If they say sorry and don't make it right or make reasonable actions to ensure it doesn't happen again then they are a liar and poor company to keep.

Victor

parenting decision of theirs

What do you mean their decision was? Did they make you promise to do better next time? Curious, as I'm a parent.