At the time I got married, 13 years ago, I lived in a flat.
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At the time I got married, 13 years ago, I lived in a flat. I liked it cos it was a short walk from the train station. Good for getting home after late nights out.
My wife moved in. One day she said, "The only problem with this flat is that it's a long walk from the station."
Long?
Turns out it's short if you go thru the woods & by the dark underpass, a route a woman would never think of taking.
And that was my 1st lesson in how we inhabit the same space but live in different worlds.
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@davidnjoku This is the same problem I have with men who exhort us to walk to work and back, when it's dark, or cycle or take the train. They dismiss utterly the fact that it's NOT that easy for women, because of men.
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Yeah, as an American, I realized this in South London. My then-gf (now-wife) took the main road outside her house to walk about 12 minutes to the station. One day I took her by the backwoods path I had found out, going thru some hedges, saving a few minutes. She said she’d never walk that way, even with a female friend. Her sister told me those hedges are where questionable teens hang out after they’re let out of school for the day. And “suppliers”. -
@jadugar63 I walk past weed-smoking teens all the time, never realising how threatening they might seem to women
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@Judeet99 I think - and I don't know if you agree - that it's forgiveable that we don't immediately think of it ourselves, but it's not forgiveable that we don't listen when you tell us.
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@davidnjoku Very carefully put, and yes that's it in a nutshell. This bloke was dismissive, saying it was a "societal problem"...no it's not, it's the key core problem for 52% of the population.
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Alex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UKreplied to Aloniaxx last edited by
@Judeet99 @davidnjoku it was *constantly* overlooked in my region even on left-leaning eco-activist groups trying to encourage more cycling and less car use and wondering why women seemed more car-dependent but not wanting to deal with the real safety problems (as these would require a lot more than just road layout changes)
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@davidnjoku @jadugar63 The weed smokers aren't the problem, they're usually pretty chill.
