Questions?

[whydudothatdrcrane@lemmy.ml]

Well known gender thing, worse for women of color.

[bdonvr@thelemmy.club]

The more general term is “intersectionality”

[bdonvr@thelemmy.club]

“where are you from?”

Here.

“But where did you grow up?”

Here.

“Where were you born?”

Here.

“But where were your parents from?”

The town over.

“Okay but where were your grandparents from”

[Other country]

“Ah okay now I can finally put this label on you and refer to you as [country]an whenever I talk about you and hang all these assumptions on you”

[goferking0@lemmy.sdf.org]

www.deviantart.com/…/Questions-333046977

[triflingtoad@sh.itjust.works]

Speaking of touching hair, this isn’t really related but what are you supposed to do when holding a baby?
Like I held my family members baby the other day at Thanksgiving and my brain just defaulted to petting their nearly bald head like my cat

[palordrolap@fedia.io]

Could it be that you're a straight white male who doesn't mix with people outside that particular bubble much? I'm one of those, and I'm willing to believe others when they say it happens, and how often. Even in those places where the majority vote for the more progressive candidate.

[sharkeatingbreakfast@sopuli.xyz]

Yep.

Being a woman trying to get your medical concerns taken seriously is hell.

Can’t imagine how awful it would be to stack “not white” on top of that, too.

[krauerking@lemy.lol]

The liberals do it almost more than the conservatives. It’s more open racism and avoidance but somehow it’s a kindness to talk down to people of color in the eyes of the liberal.

[gravityowl@lemm.ee]

Its a rhetorical question

No, it wasn’t. It wasn’t rhetorical

for you to see the flaw in the picture painted by the “meme”

There is no “flaw” in the comic. It’s showing the VERY REAL difference in treatment among white and black people

But a growing literature is demonstrating how the impact of single parenthood and family structure on children varies by racial group, including evidence that Black children experience smaller single motherhood “penalties” for some outcomes, like education.

[fishpen0@lemmy.world]

Happens in Boston literally every day

[taiyang@lemmy.world]

I think that’s normal, actually. Little kids like affection and caressing their bald head qualifies. I’m not sure what age that ends, though.

[kerrypacker@lemmy.world]

I was blonde growing up in a middle eastern country and people used to want to touch my hair all the time.

[ayyy@sh.itjust.works]

It bothers me endlessly that people who advocate for keeping the tipping system are directly asking to perpetuate racism. Many of them don’t even know thats what they’re doing, but I’m slowly learning that most people (including minorities) actually like systemic racism.

[ionaddis@lemmy.world]

I don’t have kids, but a friend of mine that does commented I sway while carrying a cat in the way someone holding a baby does.

I guess that’s more proof part of the domestication that went on with cats is that they somehow signal “baby” to our minds.

It makes sense it goes the other way too.

[shardikprime@lemmy.world]

Wait that’s illegal

[djsoren19@yiffit.net]

Racism is one of the only institutions Americans are still willing to vote to protect.

[gravityowl@lemm.ee]

Absolutely. I was thinking specifically about intersectionality when I wrote that, but misogynoir also applies.

I didn’t want to simply write “that’s intersectionality” and leave though, that’s why I wrote about a more practical example instead

[chiliedogg@lemmy.world]

30 Rock had an episode where Liz thought Tracy couldn’t read. I loved his label for it:

“The subtle racism of lowered expectations.”

[zalgotext@sh.itjust.works]

I’m over 30 but I still like it when my gf gives me head scritches/scalp massages. So I guess never for some?

[kombatwombat@lemmy.world]

These aren’t normal questions from strangers. Unless you have a strong reason to, you don’t assume details about people’s lives when getting to know more about them. Even the questions on the left are presumptuous and can represent a faux pas, but they’re mild enough that the recipient would likely correct any wrong premise without making it an incident. But trying to guess details reflects poorly on you if you are wrong. Mostly you would express interest in what you can see about someone as an invitation for them to share more if they care to.