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SharkEatingBreakfast

Yep.

Being a woman trying to get your medical concerns taken seriously is hell.

Can’t imagine how awful it would be to stack “not white” on top of that, too.

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The liberals do it almost more than the conservatives. It’s more open racism and avoidance but somehow it’s a kindness to talk down to people of color in the eyes of the liberal.

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Its a rhetorical question

No, it wasn’t. It wasn’t rhetorical

for you to see the flaw in the picture painted by the “meme”

There is no “flaw” in the comic. It’s showing the VERY REAL difference in treatment among white and black people

But a growing literature is demonstrating how the impact of single parenthood and family structure on children varies by racial group, including evidence that Black children experience smaller single motherhood “penalties” for some outcomes, like education.

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Happens in Boston literally every day

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I think that’s normal, actually. Little kids like affection and caressing their bald head qualifies. I’m not sure what age that ends, though.

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I was blonde growing up in a middle eastern country and people used to want to touch my hair all the time.

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It bothers me endlessly that people who advocate for keeping the tipping system are directly asking to perpetuate racism. Many of them don’t even know thats what they’re doing, but I’m slowly learning that most people (including minorities) actually like systemic racism.

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I don’t have kids, but a friend of mine that does commented I sway while carrying a cat in the way someone holding a baby does.

I guess that’s more proof part of the domestication that went on with cats is that they somehow signal “baby” to our minds.

It makes sense it goes the other way too.

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Wait that’s illegal

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Racism is one of the only institutions Americans are still willing to vote to protect.

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Absolutely. I was thinking specifically about intersectionality when I wrote that, but misogynoir also applies.

I didn’t want to simply write “that’s intersectionality” and leave though, that’s why I wrote about a more practical example instead

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30 Rock had an episode where Liz thought Tracy couldn’t read. I loved his label for it:

“The subtle racism of lowered expectations.”

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I’m over 30 but I still like it when my gf gives me head scritches/scalp massages. So I guess never for some?

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These aren’t normal questions from strangers. Unless you have a strong reason to, you don’t assume details about people’s lives when getting to know more about them. Even the questions on the left are presumptuous and can represent a faux pas, but they’re mild enough that the recipient would likely correct any wrong premise without making it an incident. But trying to guess details reflects poorly on you if you are wrong. Mostly you would express interest in what you can see about someone as an invitation for them to share more if they care to.

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Missing the classic, “You speak so well!” Like, wtf, did you expect me to speak in pure jive and clicks???

2ugly2live

It doesn’t matter what the stats are, it’s insanely rude.

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This is only tangentially related to the point but when else am I going to get to share this story:

I’m a tall white dude with long, thick, slightly curly hair (when short it curls, when long the weight pulls it into waves), my entire life it’s been expected of me to just let women touch my hair and go “god I wish I could have this” or similar

I had a few black girl friends (note the space) growing up and they saw that a few times and we bonded a bit on this hair shit, but they were actually shocked that people at least asked them whereas I’d get molested without asking

One day an older black woman did it in front of my friend Alex and she puts on her heaviest “I’m from the ghetto bitch” accent and yells “nigga why you not even ask to touch his hair? You’re a sistah, you should know better!” And smacks her hand away from me

The look of shock on that woman’s face and level of apology she gave me was the weirdest fucking thing I’ve ever experienced racially in my life. I got to see, just for a moment, what it looks like when white people realize theyre being super racist and want to undo it. It was awkward as fuck

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It’s about consent.

The fact that you’ve heard “Don’t touch a black person’s hair” is because SO MANY nonBlack people would just walk up and start touching us without so much as a “How do you do”.

Black people aren’t particularly different than anyone else. The way we are treated is often quite different.

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journals.sagepub.com/doi/…/00027162221120759

Data for this study comes from the LIS, which is an archive of cross-nationally and historically harmonized individual-level nationally representative datasets. U.S. data in the LIS come from the Annual Social and Economic March Supplement of the CPS. The main advantage of using the LIS over the underly- ing CPS is the higher-quality and improved income measures that comprehen- sively incorporate taxes and transfers and therefore yield improved poverty measures. I analyze twenty-five waves of LIS data for the United States from 1995 to 2018. I select this time period because it includes all the U.S. datasets for which all variables in the study are available.1