They/Them

[email protected]

I'm tired of calling John, John, every time I refer to Join, but I wasn't paying attention to John's pronouns, so now I'm stuck until I have a chance to ask John, when I next see John.

[email protected]

Or you could just use "they." Convenient!

[email protected]

Calling people what they ask to be called just doesn't have to be this difficult.

And yes, his royal lordship Starn, the majestic, that goes for you, too. It's fine. We're cool with your chosen name. And I admit, the opera cape absolutely works for you.

And I don't need to know what genitalia most other people are rocking. That's none of my business, unless we're really into each-other, in a very intimate way.

It takes all my willpower not to be get pretty inappropriate every time a government form asks my birth sex:

"Oh! We just met at this office of motor vehicles...I didn't know you felt that way about me! This is so much to process. I admit there's a mutual attraction. Of course I feel it too. I'm delighted that you had a special form made up to ask! I'm flattered! Want to grab dinner, and see where this goes?"

[email protected]

Yeah. And Y'all also used to be plural. Now it can be singular and we use All Y'all to clarify when we need people to know we mean plural. Language is bonkers.

[email protected]

I've never understood the hatred. It's nonsensical.

It's just basic respect and courtesy to call someone what they want to be called.

If someone wants to identify as a tuna melt with "it" pronouns, I will do that. It doesn't make my life harder, and it seems important to them.

Just so long as I'm not expected to know what to call them telepathically before they've told me.

[email protected]

Remember when we just conversed like human beings and didn't have all this convoluted nonsense about worrying over pronouns?

If the person is called John, 99.9% of the time, you know what the pronouns would be, because not everyone is terminally online.

[email protected]

Man Christmas dinner is gonna rock this year. Just like my mom will play dumb and look confused that I used "they" as a singular, I'm going to play dumb and look confused when she says "you". I see no downsides.

[email protected]

English is so inconsistent at this point.

At this point? At this very point, specifically due to the historically valid usage of one gender neutral pronoun? Now is the time that it's finally become an inconsistent language? Singular "they" is the thing that has pushed English over the edge from logical and sensical to arbitrary and confusing? Of all the foibles and quirks, this is the one that is simply unforgivable and must be changed?

[email protected]

Oh yeah it took me a while to default to 'they' instead of 'he/she' lol
Sometimes I still mess up and assume, and sometimes I say 'they' when I don't mean to also. Brains are weird.

[email protected]

Calling people what they ask to be called just doesn't have to be this difficult.

Yeah, I don't really understand why people get so upset about Drag specifically, like it's not that hard once you figure it out.

CarrotsHaveEars

I didn't say anything you said.

I think a more sensible way to include LGBT+ group is to just make "she/her" obsolete. We are all "he/him", and we are "they/them" when in a group. Way cleaner than this, excuse me, shit that we foreign English speakers have to adjust to for every few years.

[email protected]

me copy pasting a line of code in 20 different places just to go back and make a function for it

[email protected]

naw bro I get chopsticks on amazon

[email protected]

because not everyone is terminally online.

LGBT people exist irl too, you'd be surprised how many there are once you get to know them. People you never would've thought were lgbt you can now recognize. I'm from Florida which is pretty conservative and I know 5+ trans people (including non-binary).

They're pretty cool too! I have a trans guy friend who will absolutely LOVE to talk about how cars work and fishing spots given the chance. He taught me how to change the oil on my car. I'm hoping to get him a blahaj for Christmas

[email protected]

Calling people what they ask to be called just doesn't have to be this difficult.

We in fact do it all the time. It's just people have gotten used to using names. But it's not like you were born with a Dave chromosome. Your parents decided to call you Dave, so in the end it's also just a made up name/sound.

[email protected]

We agree. We make he/him obsolete and we're all she/her.

[email protected]

The singular "they"
Pre-dates singular "you"

The same way rights were ore-dated by no rights?

'older' is not always 'better'. Make your point, but don't hinge it on a false comparison.

[email protected]

Tea hers didn't know vapid influencers would exist.

[email protected]

On the internet nobody knows you are a horse.

merde alors

"he/him" probably isn't he/him in their non-gendered language. In some languages there's no he or she, there's only a pronoun that means "that person"

Armenian, Persian, Tagalog, Finnish, Georgian, Turkish &c