Every single time

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It may not have been a verbal demand but they’ve absolutely told you that something is wrong.

Devil's advocate: perhaps. But, then all you know is something is wrong, not what. And when asking clarifying questions, like, oh say "what's wrong?" makes the situation worse? Guess i should paid more attention in Mind Reading at Hogwarts...

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That's not a relationship .... that's Stockholm syndrome

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oh say “what’s wrong?” makes the situation worse? Guess i should paid more attention in Mind Reading at Hogwarts…

I don't think this is a productive way to think of your partner. I also don't think you've read my comment replies.

If you're having trouble communicating with your partner, and you get defensive about it, you're going to have bigger problems than just "mind reading" as you call it.

Cid Vicious

Another one for the blocklist

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I don't escalate, but I tell my partner that her behavior is not acceptable, and she does the same to me.

Being pissed isn't a free pass to be a dick to your partner. If they are pissed and they come to you, then they don't get to be pissy with you.

If they can't do that, they can go take a five and come back after. It's the same thing we teach children.

In the case I fucked up, I apologize and make amends. Again, it isn't a free pass for my partner to berate me.

And my partner expects the same from me.

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I think we're misunderstanding each other. You're using combattive and defensive language and then assuming that I'm allowing someone to berate me. That's different than what happens. There needs to be open communication about how your partner makes you feel and what language they use. But coming at this from a punitive or paternal angle is just ick.

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Yeah ! Misogyny ! Welcome to my block list, OP !

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Then what they need is to no longer be in the relationship.

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OP is a douche

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girl bad

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The old ball and chain! Am I right?

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Are the straights okay?

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Everybody Sucks Here

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I was worried when I saw so many comments but yall are aight here.

Also you should block me, but for much different reasons.

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Way to help her out yo. She is really lucky to have someone who cares enough to be that patient with her.

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Your initial point is that the partner already expressed their point clearly and that's the other partner (the man), that didn't listen.

To which I responded that the onus is on the pissed person to communicate well the issue, not the person listening (assuming that both are acting on good faith).

It's easy to say " I am mad because of X" regardless of the situation, instead of playing mind games. Or "I am mad about X and I don't know how to express it". Simple, respectful and a starting point to resolve the conflict.

This is not coming from a paternal or punitive angle, this is just proper communication. If you can't express why you are upset to someone and act like the meme, this is not acceptable and respectful.

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If they can’t do that, they can go take a five and come back after. It’s the same thing we teach children.

Is the definition of paternal.

You're asking for a rational response from an irrational act. People don't say "Oh I seem to have stubbed my toe and it pains me" they say FUCK THAT HURT.

You sound like you're trying to manage someone's emotions with your language and posturing. Which is yhe exact opposite of what will deescalate a situation.

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This is not the definition of paternal at all.

I am not asking for a rational response, I am asking for a respectful response, and my partner expects the same from me.

It's fine if my partner is angry or sad or anything else, but it's not okay to make you feel bad for a genuine question and trying to help.

It is possible to be emotional and respectful but what you described in your OP isnt that.

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Every time I see one of these types of memes I always just assume that the guy is just as clueless as in The Break Up movie lol

psychOdelic

HAHAHHAHA WOMEN!!!