Every single time

[ininewcrow@lemmy.ca]

If you and your partner can't talk to each other like adults in a relationship ..... it won't be a relationship for very long.

[endymion_mallorn@kbin.melroy.org]

I've learned to ask "what's on your mind?" instead. It's less accusatory than assuming something is wrong.

[procrastitron@lemmy.world]

She’ll get even madder if you try to defend yourself saying “I can’t read your mind”…

because that makes it too obvious you weren’t listening when she explicitly told you what was wrong.

[5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

When you ask [him]: "What's wrong?" and [he] answers: "Nothing." but [he] gets mad, when you don't inquire.

[dudeimmacgyver@kbin.earth]

Yeah, I've used "Talk to me, what's going on?"

[dudeimmacgyver@kbin.earth]

An incel wouldn't even be having the conversation lol

[naiboftabr@infosec.pub]

because that makes it too obvious you weren’t listening when if she explicitly told you what was wrong.

If. Not saying it doesn't happen, but it's not common, especially not explicitly. And that's not really a male/female/etc thing, it's an everybody thing - people get upset and usually don't know exactly why. People experience delayed reactions to emotional triggers that happened days or weeks ago. People project past emotional reactions onto present interactions, usually not for any identifiable reason (this is not to belittle or invalidate the emotion, but just to point out that the connection is usually tenuous and vague).

Getting more angry when someone asks you why you seem upset is typically a defensive reaction - you don't know why you feel so upset right now, at least not for any specific reason you can express in the moment... so being asked why is putting pressure on you when you're already experiencing some anxiety, and the typical response is to try to deflect and defend against that pressure.

[glowie@h4x0r.host]

People mass downvoting a meme is classic Lemmy

[sleepypie@lemmy.world]

I hope you one day realize that only a subset of possible partners are like this and that you can find more emotionally intelligent people if you’re willing to spend time and effort putting yourself out there. It will improve your life greatly in the long run

[halykthered@lemmy.ml]

I get it! Wife bad!
ROFLOL

[nucleardolphin@lemmy.ml]

This meme is an incel adjacent talking point. Half of the rhetoric of incels is just attacking strawmen about women.

[acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org]

a post is only worth upvoting if it says "trans rights" and adds nothing more of relevance, please understand

[acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org]

you don't even know what this word means

[dudeimmacgyver@kbin.earth]

Is this a strawman?

[feelzgoodman420@eviltoast.org]

Wife bad, amirite?

[undulyunruly@lemmy.world]

Full-on witchcraft advice going on here, lads. Stay away.

[podperson@lemm.ee]

Wait - I am muted on a conference call. Let me unmute to laugh.

[agrivar@lemmy.world]

and the OP is a troll who's been posting various levels of mask-on to full-racist memes all over Lemmy.

[where_am_i@sh.itjust.works]

True. Nonetheless, "women bad" memes aren't a valid replacement. Please, kindly proceed to 9gag.com to find a community of like-minded individuals.

[novamdomum@fedia.io]

There's a relationship cheat code I use all the time. It usually stops everything in it's tracks and sets you on a much more positive path, especially if they're not used to you doing this. When you find yourself at that point in a conversation where you're about to shout something like "OH FFS! WHAT'S THE MATTER NOW?!" instead... you pause, look at them, tilt your head a bit, narrow your eyes thoughtfully and say as calmly as you can "What do you need?". No matter how mad they get after that you just keep asking that question until they respond to it. If you haven't done that before it may take them a while to even notice you asked that question. Just keep going. Oh also top tip... when they tell you what they need don't invalidate it. It's hard for a lot of people to directly tell you what they actually need. If they do then they're trusting you to listen. Breaking that trust will take you right back to square one.