If you deliberately misgender someone and think it is okay because you don't like them, or because they hurt you, or any other reason:
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You are saying that our basic humanity is contingent on whether _you_ _like_ _us_.
Which is absolute BS.
I despise Caitlyn Jenner and Blair White. I don't deliberately misgender either of them or treat misgendering of them as a "well I hate them so it is okay." Doing so would be _transphobia_.
So if you see this in your orbit you need to be calling this out, or calling the person who is doing it in, or you are complicit.
Period. Full stop.
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@hrefna “Treat your neighbor as you would wish to be treated” is so simple a moral axiom and somehow so ignored…and anything eise IS attempting to treat them as inhuman and undeserving of that bedrock respect.
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Hrefna (DHC)replied to Hrefna (DHC) on last edited by [email protected]
"But they…"
Okay, and you don't understand how transphobia is not just about you? That it contributes to dehumanization of others outside of the scope of your disagreement?
That dehumanizing contributes to a _culture_ of dehumanization that is currently a very, very real threat to many of us? That there are overarching _systemic_ and _societal_ issues at play outside of your own feelings?
Go challenge them to a duel or whatever. Don't misgender them.
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Bacon_Nathan98replied to Hrefna (DHC) on last edited by
Many people are confused by the emphasis on gender these days, after all we are so much more than our gender roles.
So cut people some slack abt innocent mistakes or even malicious insults. I don't need to go all 911 if someone misgenders me.
After all keeping ones cool is maintaining the upper hand in a discussion/argument.
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@hrefna
It's the same as deploying racist tropes against somebody because they did something that upset you. Both are equally inexcusible, and both show what's under the mask. -
Hrefna (DHC)replied to Bacon_Nathan98 on last edited by
@Bacon_Nathan98 I have precisely zero interest in engaging with someone with your post history who makes comments like these, addressing defensively a point I didn't even make. Peace.
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@hrefna it is transphobia to do this even if the target is not trans!
Because if variation from gender norms is used as an insult, or mis-gendering is used as an insult...
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Frances Larinareplied to Hrefna (DHC) on last edited by
If I may add, even if the person doing the misgendering is trans, it is STILL transphobia.
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Hrefna (DHC)replied to Frances Larina on last edited by
@Frances_Larina 100%
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Raccoon at TechHub :mastodon:replied to Bacon_Nathan98 on last edited by [email protected]
@Bacon_Nathan98 @hrefna
At no point has anyone in this discussion said anything remotely like what you're referring to. She is specifically talking about specific people tossing aside respect for gender-identity and pronouns out of convenience or in retaliation for a perceived slight, then acting like people telling them that saying these things suddenly don't matter because you don't like the person is tantamount to saying they aren't real and thus transphobic.Stop bringing in this weird propaganda that trans people are "calling 911 if someone misgendered them", because that is absolutely not what is happening here, or in any of the mentioned discussions, and trying to divert from the actual discussion at hand, which is that influential people are trying to set this as a norm.
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Raccoon at TechHub :mastodon:replied to datum (n=1) on last edited by