The rules are made up and the points don't matter

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Oh yeah it's completely irrational. Used to be like this myself particularly when living in a dorm during college. Couldn't tell you what I was scared of to be clear. No thoughts led me there, no experiance with people, no issue with talking to people even. I know if just walked out I'd be fine

When I was next to the door and heard someone in the hall I'd just feel nervous and fearful. I'd standby the door with my ear against it steadying my breath without making a sound until the were gone. Particularly aweful when the bathroom was down the hall you know.

Notaclue what changed either I just kinda stopped caring at a point

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The old people always want to talk and I'm too nice to cut them off. There is no other choice but to avoid them at all costs.

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Yes. Their violent neighbor broke in earlier and is currently using their bathroom, much to the embarrassment of the protagonist

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This is why people moved en masse to suburbs. You go to your car and drive away, rarely even see a neighbor. I've spoken to a neighbor once in the last year and it was because we were both shoveling snow (it was yesterday). We shoveled for an hour in silence but we kept getting closer to the street (she's across the street). At some point we were only about 20 feet from each other and the silence was awkward. At least it was just a 30 second convo.

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This is true. Denser populations tend to be more antisocial. Europe and much of the US northeast is crowded, most of the US south is not. It's also why a lot of people from small-town US think most "city folk" are rude, and that includes many Europeans. It's really just culture.

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This is it. As long as I can remember in the US, the winning party (winning with 23.7% of the eligible voters approval vs 22.9% on the other side) have always essentially said, "suck it losers!" and done as much as they can of what the other party hates. It's tyranny of the majority and why the US has a constitutional Republic framework to limit that tyranny, however ineffective it may be. Never has a party come into power and said, "let's make sure we also represent the will of the millions of voters who voted the other way."

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You explained it the best

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discussion =/= socializing

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I think it's her front door and her neighbors are talking in the hall outside her apartment. (The keys doesn't really make sense with her wanting to 'go')

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For me, it's my roommate and the never-ending rant about 'stupid' things going on at work.

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(The keys doesn't really make sense with her wanting to 'go')

I was thinking it could be a gas station bathroom.

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Do you think we should treat people with crippling anxiety by telling them that their anxiety is crippling any time they post on the internet about how crippling their anxiety is?

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I grew up in a suburb and that was the only time I HAVE regularly felt like this. I still wince when I think of the loud Greek lady across the street who shouted my name whenever I tried to leave the house. Egads.

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Gross. What a demeaning response.

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Hmm, that certainly wasn't my goal.

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Some houses have a deadbolt that has a lock cylinder on both sides because it’s more resistant to breakins. My house is like this and I need a key to leave unless I want to jump out of a window

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Wtf? I live in the suburbs and we talk regularly to the neighbours. Is this some weird US-specific dystopia?

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In Europe you often have doors that lock with keys from inside as well. And no knob/autolock.

The good part is that there is no "I forgot my keys and locked myself out" because either you couldn't leave without your keys or you left your door unlocked.

The bad part is when you are late to your engagement because you can't just leave the apartment unlocked/you are locked in and your room mate Julia misplaced her keys and borrowed yours to go out for an hour and she's an hour late already. Fuck you, Julia. Also fire safety.

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Have they not invented fire in your country yet?

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I think lemmy and reddit are super different from social media. you can use some of their tools to socialize but most if not all people don't use their real names, most don't even have a proper profile, most people don't follow each other or try to get followers, etc. there's just no "relationship" aspect that is distinct to social media sites.

if anything lemmy feels a little more social just because of the small size, and how you start to recognize the same bunch of people in the comments. but I'd expect that to go away if it ever gets really big one day.