People are all different

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Asexuality is simply fear of rejection and/or insecurity. CMV.

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So, I know you got a lot of replies to this already (probably more than you expected lol) but I'd like to throw in my 2 cents.

For me, there's two big reasons to be public about your sexual preferences. The first of those is awareness. For me, I grew up homeschooled in an extremely rural area. My parents did their best with the whole 'birds and bees' thing and gave me books to handle puberty stuff (which worked really well for me since I read an insane amount back then). But none of those really went over anything about different sexual preferenes, leading me to waiting my entire teenage life for that point where I'm supposed to suddenly start being into girls (or guys, bc that had enough media attention at that point where I was dimly aware lol).

It was only thanks to the internet- I think posts about it during pride month- that I even learned about asexuality as a concept. If nobody talked about that kind of stuff at all, I'd still probably be feeling like I was supposed to feel physically attracted towards people yet for some reason didn't.

The second reason, is for equal rights. We don't live in a perfect world, and people discriminate against others. And you can't just hide everything- you can be quiet about it, sure, but for example: if you're gay, and in a committed relationship, people are going to notice it the same way they'd notice if you're in a committed relationship with someone of the opposite gender. And many people have backwards views that would cause them to discriminate against you for that. One shouldn't have to be afraid that if their boss finds out they're gay, they'll lose their job.

We have protections against discrimination for that, but those protections didn't come into existance because people were quiet about that. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, so to speak. And same goes for gay marriage- that was only a relatively recent change, but it would not have happened if not for gay people making their presence known and demanding they should have the same rights to marriage as hetero couples.

As much as I'd love to be in a world where we don't need to worry about all that anymore because we have those rights now, there's still a lot of people in positions of power who hold a lot of unjust prejudice against lgbtq folk. Especially with the current state of politics here in the USA. And I don't see that changing anytime too soon, either.

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I think if that was the case, Ace people would just stick to "sure things?"

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I don't think this is implied. The idea is probably that, like so many things, it's on a spectrum and 'asexual' would describe one end of the spectrum. But I must admit, I do somewhat share your sentiment, I've read lots of things by self-proclaimed asexuals in which I recognize myself, but I also think I have a quite average sexdrive. It makes me wonder if some people aren't just a bit too eager to define themselves as different from the norm. I'm not talking about the further end of the spectrum, but there are those that really aren't that different from your average person, but seem to want a box to fit in. Not that I care, go ahead, define yourself whatever way you want, if you want to think that your different go ahead, it really doesn't bother me, and who knows maybe you're right, who am I to tell you you're wrong?

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Reproduction is a fundamental driving force in human behavior. I refuse to believe there are truly asexual people who aren’t neurodivergent.

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Reproduction is a fundamental driving force in human behavior. I refuse to believe there are truly asexual people who aren’t neurodivergent.

If the neurodivergency is their sexuality then sure, maybe? What about homosexual people? Because that's not going to result in offspring either.

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We flip idioms all the time. Head-over-heels is another one, used to be the other way around. I suspect it's a subconscious thing as both moved the long e sound to the end and we prefer vowel sounds in particular orders and rhythms.

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Homosexuality is still sexuality. The same driving force is behind it, it just doesn’t result in reproduction.

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I agree with you on that, and for me thats disgusting .

you know what i think is disgusting? Showing up on a public message board like lemmy, and posting your opinion, truly an outrageous thing to partake in.

I have gay friends that are almost sex predators and they talk in a way sometimes I have to stop them.

have you told them that you don't care? Because it sounds like you haven't told them that part yet.

You are not anyone to tell how the other needs to think.

only the truest of ironies make it to the surface. Everything else sinks in a dense sea of truth.

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Most of the time, the sex is too.