It happens...

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I have a friend who has a lot of friends. Sometimes we hangout together, but rarely. I cannot for the life of me remember their names and I swear 3 of them look the fucking same to me. It's always a struggle to keep pretending for hours until I finally hear someone call one of them by name. I remember that for a few hours. If we hangout again next day it resets out of my head again.

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2 things that make it a little bit easier to remember other people's names is repeating the name of the person after he/she just said it and trying to associate with another person you know that has the same name. It's not perfect but it's better than forgetting every single time.

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The obvious way out of this situation: open your own kebab place and start calling him bossman or chief.

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That’s when you figure out a reason to hand them a clipboard and say, “Imma need you to sign in.”

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Jfc, if you knew how long it has taken me to know the names of some of my friends, and not just work friends or gym friends, it would be absurd.

Hell, even after months of hanging with someone, you might not know their last name; it's all "hey, I'm zipper". Why zipper? "I dunno, you know how it is". Yeah, I feel that. Anyway, went a beer, zip?

My chronic pain/disability support group shares space with an autism support group. Not a single one of the autism group knows my actual name afaik, but we'll hang out down the road at a diner some nights as a mixed group when we're meeting at the same time. It's all "hey, beard!" And "sasquatch, wanna see my cat?" And sometimes just "man". I've known some of them for years and we don't know each other's actual names. A couple of them, I've been to their house, and vice versa, and we don't know each others last name at all.

One guy in specific came over, heard my wife call out my name and was confused as hell because my name sounds like a regular word and thought it was a different nickname. Asked for the story behind it, and I had to show him my driver's license because he thought I was fucking with him. We'd had dinner together at the diner dozens of times.

No need for real names when you're bros

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You do know that telling someone with ADHD to just pay attention is like telling someone on a cane to jog, right?

Dick move in other words

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Yeah. "My boy from the bar, the one with the anime girl car..." or whatever is how my stories to my wife would go. If told to a general audience the pii would be removed.

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This could be a great Seinfeld or Curb episode

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why say their name when you could instead say “guy” or “man”, or, occasionally, “buddy”?

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This guy's name is Fork

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If someone I just met uses my name regularly I feel like they're trying to sell me something.

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After fucking around for a while turned into being exclusive for about six months, the woman who is now my wife realized that we didn't know each other's last names. If she hadn't brought it up it's hard to tell how long I would have gone not knowing.

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Could you possibly have face blindness?

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So I travel all over for work at different places. I'll start telling a story about something that happened three weeks ago to a coworker. "Oh yeah, where were you at?" Me- blank stare half the time.

Sometimes it comes to me after a few seconds, sometimes I can't even remember which State I was in.

I used to be awful with names but I've got better at that. Still below average, but better. I do have ADHD for what that's worth.

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The only reason you need to know someone's name is to talk about them behind their back.

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Repeating the name back helped me immensely. I'm still not great with names but I'm so much better than I was.

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Enjoy winter break. If you aren't going to college (and I wouldn't recommend it for most people), this will be the last time you have that much free time unless you live long enough, and make enough money, to retire.

Sorry to be such a downer. I forget there are high school kids on Lemmy. For what it's worth I'm sorry about climate change, but that's largely the fault of my elders and the corporations that control the government.

Register to vote!

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Here's a fun way to play it- say "We've talked so many times over the years, and I bet you don't even know my name."

If he does, explain that you said that because you don't know his, laugh about it. Get his name and put it in your phone if you think you'll forget.

If he doesn't, then say "Well we're in the same boat because I don't know yours!" Exchange names, and put it in your phone if you think you'll forget.

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I sometimes make a note with someone's name and brief description that sticks to me.

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