Decisions

[phobosanomaly@feddit.uk]

Yeah, it works both ways at the end of the day.

I know fine well I need to take some holiday days - I work with a team of fantastic guys and girls in a very bureaucratic environment, so any deviation from the norm in certain projects come with a raft of paperwork (an unnecessary volume in some cases), before the issue can really be put to bed.

Everyone makes fuckups. I've made fuckups and caused by line manager paperwork when I was at the coalface, and I'll continue to make fuckups and learn from them in the future. I know my spuds will drop a bollock every now and then, and that's cool.

There are times when someone has made a royal arse of something and it's stacked another load of paperwork on top of me, and I get a bit angry about it. It's not rational, it's not fair to rag on the poor dude or dudette or dudethey who made an error, and I'll let my partner know that I'm not after solutions - I'm just needing a bit of extra time to calm down and refocus. Solutions to those problems mean overhauling a heavy and entrenched system of work, and it's not something that can be done at home - I could have married Kofi Annan, but unless he's familiar with the system of work, there's fuck all he could actually do.

At that point, it's time to book a week or two off, and think about anything - everything - but work.

[cypherpunks@lemmy.ml]

[zwiebel@feddit.org]

Look at mister "I leave the basement twice a week" over here

[wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world]

Hello, we'd like to offer you a position as police chief in a neighborhood that will statistically have a school shooting soon.

[magnyusg@lemmy.world]

I find that the variety of emotes people have available on discord say more than I probably would half-ass with words.

[idkwhatusernametoputherelolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

Lol that's basically a therapist, minus the second option.

[idkwhatusernametoputherelolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com]

Sadly, nobody does that.

Its the best option.

[diffusive@lemmy.world]

Awesome list!

I would just change slightly the “What can I do to help?” (That is a call for a “nothing”) to “How can I help?” (That shows much more enthusiasm in wanting to help)

[agent641@lemmy.world]

4: "I can help you hide the body if you want."

[fizz@lemmy.nz]

Ah drawing aggro like a true tank.

[fizz@lemmy.nz]

"Its not that bad stop being a pussy"
Works 30% of the time everytime.

[heythisisnttheymca@lemmy.world]

In the land of the blind awkward the one eyed I dunno less awkward I guess man is king

[heythisisnttheymca@lemmy.world]

I prefer the renegade

[bruhduh@lemmy.world]

Tell a related story is best choice because it shows that you really feel what that person is coming through since you've came through similar situation yourself

[aoidenpa@lemmy.world]

But then you are making this about yourself. Stealing the show. Reaping all the sympathy.

[don@lemm.ee]

“I can’t say I would’ve known what to do, had I been in your position.”

“I can only imagine what that must have been like for you, which understandably likely isn’t of much consolation to you.”

“It would be disingenuous of me to presume to know what it was like for you to have experienced what you endured, but I am happy to listen to what you have to say, if you wish to tell me.”

[asret@lemmy.zip]

I can't tell whether this is supposed to be advice on what to do or not. I can certainly see people getting upset at all of them for putting your feelings and perspective at the forefront however.

[asret@lemmy.zip]

You might need to try a different therapist.

[mystikincarnate@lemmy.ca]

That sucks.

[bruhduh@lemmy.world]

When is only you and your friend in evening near the grill, then i don't know which sympathy i stole, i mean men truly open up very rarely and often in very small circle or even only to one person, so you have to show some compassion in these moments