"I only like it when my husband is hateful to Black people, or trans kids, or Haitians, or migrant workers.

mekka okereke :verified:

"I only like it when my husband is hateful to Black people, or trans kids, or Haitians, or migrant workers. But now, he's being hateful to me too!"

Why are so many women hiding their voting plans from their husbands? | Rebecca Solnit

A lot of households are not democracies; they’re dictatorships. This may mean voter intimidation and suppression

the Guardian (www.theguardian.com)

Abuse and coercion in relationships is awful. Men are generally trash. But this "Save Melania" mess to paint lifelong MAGA women as victims now is nonsense.

That man was MAGA when she met him. He didn't become a new person. The hate was always there.

And y'all act like 47% of white women voters aren't pro-life.‍️

mekka okereke :verified:

There are a number of people whose very first social media comment ever on the topic of mail-in voting, is to worry about the white MAGA women who might want to vote for Harris, but have husbands that make them vote for Trump.

They've never expressed concern about the millions of Black women whose right to vote at all was stolen by those very same MAGA men.

This is concern for white women, under a veil of concern about the very real topic of domestic violence and coercion in general.

2/N

mekka okereke :verified:

And again, when we talk about mail-in voting MAGA coercion, we pretend that there aren't white women who do this coercion to their husbands. There are white men that want to vote for Harris, and their racist white women wives and partners won't let them.

Y'all need to accept how many racist white women there are in the US.

Because this election isn't about gender. It's about racism/fascism vs non-racist, non-fascist. Stealing women's reproductive rights is just a side-quest for fascists.

3/3

Oggie

@mekkaokereke Not even sure where to grade this, but apparently some of the more vocally mysogonistic right hacks are now saying that if their wives voted for Harris it would just be like her having an affair and it would need to be corrected.

So while your entire points stand, now they're apparently attempting to force the other thing into reality by vaguely threatening that it would be fine to punish a spouse for voting the wrong way.

mekka okereke :verified:

@Oggie

Yes, the "men don't eat ice cream in public" guy said that his wife voting for Harris would be like cheating.‍️

Eva Braun may have been a victim of domestic violence. I'm not saying that Hitler never hit her, or saying that I don't care about domestic violence if it happens to someone I don't like. Domestic violence is always bad. What I'm saying is this: she heard his speeches and knew who he was when she swiped right in the FashyFriends app. I prioritize caring about her victims.

JuliesBits 🇺🇲

@mekkaokereke @Oggie

I used to be a conservative christian that was married to a guy who crammed the bible down my throat in every argument we had. There's that scripture that says the "husband is the head of the wife" and he spouted that to me every time he got mad at me. I remember him telling me he was going to "make me submit if it was the last thing he ever did."

It was an abusive relationship and I was afraid of him. It was tricky getting away from him but I finally got out and left my conservative christian church too. It was all wrapped up together, my church, my husband.....

I understand this clearly. I could have been one of those women who voted for Kamala in private.

After 7 years of hell, I got out and never looked back. And yeah, I'm a white woman who voted for Kamala last week.