@julian thanks, but all properties on any VPS "permission denied on key":
$ cat /proc/sys/vm/swappiness
$ sudo sysctl vm.swappiness=10
sysctl: permission denied on key 'vm.swappiness'
And with the memory seems to be all right:
@julian It seemed pretty straight forward in my mind is the worst part.
Yup, I want this server to be this other server's pathetic little slave and take orders all day...Wha?.....It's rebelling!
It's hard to beat the incorrect logic of something you know absolutely should work as you're telling it to.