I had a few brief relationships in my early twenties.
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I had a few brief relationships in my early twenties. I only really dated in my mid-thirties, and it was very difficult. I didn't know about autism, I just thought I was introverted and inexperienced.
Dating in my fifties seems much worse. Dating sites and apps seem actively hostile. There are fewer people my age available, and I feel like I'm even more backward in comparison to my peers than I was when I was younger.
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Anyway, I know that the way we talk about aging is really fucked, that the concept of life stages is closely connected to the patriarchal model of the family and is bullshit, but bullshit I have a hard time clearing out of my head.
Also, perimenopause and menopause seem to be severely underdiscussed and treated simplistically when they're discussed at all.
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Kat Valentine Allwellreplied to FoolishOwl last edited by
@foolishowl
I think about life stages in terms of trauma cycles.I came across some research some time ago that suggested it takes 7 years to recover from trauma, and this happens to coincide with early life stage intervals.
7 years old is when it's generally accepted kids are developing autonomy, and when schooling often starts.
13/14 years old is the commencement of teenage years,
21 is roughly full adulthood
Around 28 I see as generally actualized or chilled out.
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Kat Valentine Allwellreplied to Kat Valentine Allwell last edited by [email protected]
@foolishowl
I see trauma cycles as having material impact on how we develop and relate to each other, but broader life phases and stereotypes (what I believe you may be referring to) are, to my mind, mostly about marketing in relation to people's likely priorities and resources based on their age.
