This place feels pretty bad more times than not these days.
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This place feels pretty bad more times than not these days.
Try to help someone, that help doesn't matter. Ignored.
Share my opinion. That opinion is somehow wrong, even though it's an opinion.
Share my experience. My experience is belittled as insufficient to support my opinion.
What can I say that won't get vilified and/or opposed?
Idk anymore and it's pretty fucking shitty.
There may not be an algorithm here, but I damn sure feel like I have to use weird psychology to figure out what I can and cannot say because if I talk about the wrong things, someone is gonna reply and say something to oppose it or I'll just get flat out ignored.
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Adventurer For Harrisreplied to BeAware :fediverse: last edited by
@BeAware
Hi. I can only respond to one of your situations from a relevant point of view. Specifically having help ignored. I recently found responses to my posts that I missed. I don't know why but I felt sort of bad for not even acknowledging the response. But I am a small account and don't interact much. I am thinking a more active account might really lose the response which feels better than feeling ignored. -
@BeAware I mean it is the Internet mate. are there others that interact positively to your posts? I would focus on that.
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BeAware :fediverse:replied to Adventurer For Harris last edited by
@Adventurer well, do you mean that I am losing the response or the other person is?
I guess if the other person is, that feels better, but to eventually respond would be better than to never respond.
If you mean the former, I don't think that's happening tbh. I am here almost always, but I do see everything that comes my way with a reply or mention. It would definitely feel strange if I find out that I've somehow missed responses.
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@benda yeah, sometimes.
I guess I've always found it hard to find the light while surrounded by darkness, if that makes sense.
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@BeAware yeah it does make sense but I'm glad you said it before me
try to stay busy with things you care about until the mood passes. that and marijuana are the only things that ever worked for me. -
@benda it's just quite hard because this has been my happy place for a long time.
Due to a plethora of reasons including the ones I mentioned, it's starting to be no longer the case and I have to actively seek out something else to do.
Like earlier, I said I'd be taking a few days away.
Yet, here I am cause I have nothing else to do that I really enjoy.
Sorry, I know there's nobody that can fix this but me. I'm just venting at this point.
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@BeAware well venting is important, sometimes it helps to explain to someone else.
I took a pretty long break myself for a few months. and tried to stay away most of yesterday (my only day off every week). if you're doing it for the right reasons (in my case, being busy so I'm not thinking about whatever has me down) then I think it can be a good thing.
if this place is really that important to you, I don't know if you are leaving for the right reasons, but I don't know that about you, you have to make that decision.
maybe taking some time to make your ai art is something you're interested in? or learn to make other art, if you need something different.
but if you like being here, I kinda learned that to some extent I went looking for the conflicts. sometimes the comments find you, of it's touchy enough a subject, but there are solutions. like quiet posting or even muting/blocking if it's someone particular troublesome. -
@benda thanks for the advice, friend.
I definitely need to avoid certain topics and just talk about other things for awhile.
Leaning into my Fedi knowledge and other platform knowledge isn't really getting me anywhere and I feel like that's the point of the problem.
I'll have to try to figure it out.
I appreciate you talking to me about it. It definitely helped put things into perspective.
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Adventurer For Harrisreplied to BeAware :fediverse: last edited by
@BeAware
Thanks for muddling through my phrasing issues.Definitely I mean the person receiving the response may not be seeing them because a bunch of other posts came into their feed. I am by no means qualified to speak on how this fediverse works. I keep my main scrolling on my home feed so I get responses and all the hashtag and posts from people I follow there. Lately I have been trying to train myself to scroll back because I am not seeing a bunch of things such as responses. I like seriously have to do this and use likes to try to find what I left off. it's important to me to at least acknowledge I saw someone. I have missed even simple things like a response to what type of flooring some DIY person was using. When they didn't respond I assumed they never saw my post. I was so surprised when I found they had answered and I hadn't seen it for 2 weeks. So to make myself feel better I always just assume it wasn't seen.
Your situation sounds much more complicated. I hope for a positive outcome for you
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BeAware :fediverse:replied to Adventurer For Harris last edited by
@Adventurer yeah that does make sense.
Mine is a tad more complicated and I think it's in part due to the fact that I have a small following that's actually bigger than most.
More than likely a deeply personal experience we are both experiencing with that.