Ok transfemmes of the fediverse: hit me with ALL your articles, videos and things that REALLY helped you with figuring out those things that seems to be basic knowledge for people that grew up as girls.
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LEOMCYreplied to Chris Aurora 🏳️⚧:v_enby: last edited by
@korgmatose
Hi! Not every person who grew up as a girl knows those thingsI'm also desperately looking for a kind of manual or handbook for FtM with basics like tone of my voice, too feminine words I shouldn't use, body posture etc.)
It's terrible to see for example that we use different postures or gestures which are part of our gender education and that we reproduce without noticing it as a child, and then it's almost too late.
Please share!
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@leomcy @korgmatose These things are all culturally-specific, so there won't be a The Guide. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/15579883211061009 might be a start.
Afaik there's no such thing as a "feminine word" in English – but there might be such expectations in your culture. Posture is a thing, but it mostly boils down to confidence: stand up straight, don't slouch unless it makes sitting more comfortable, etc.
Speech: there are lots of voice training resources around: find some with your regional accent/dialect.
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Riley S. Faelanreplied to Chris Aurora 🏳️⚧:v_enby: last edited by
@korgmatose There's a great book, Making Faces by Kevyn Aucoin.
Unfortunately, it's published by one of those dastardly companies that have been suing the Internet Archive, so I request that you get it from a library, or buy it used, so as to not give any money to the anti-book fascists.
On a note, the Anna's Archive might know of some good libraries.
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Riley S. Faelanreplied to Camille lives at Praxis Now last edited by
@camille It involves removing some hairs at the edges of an eyebrow, for a sharper and neater-looking boundary.
FWIW, it's one of the cosmetic things where hiring a specialist is probably a good idea. With most make-up, if you make a mistake, you can clean up and try again. But eyebrows take quite some time to grow back.
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@wizzwizz4 I have sat in classes of an English-as-a-foreign-language[1] teacher who emphasised that 'beautiful' is a feminine word that in English should never be applied to a boy or a man, in whose case proper grammar requires the word 'handsome' to be used instead.
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and gorgeous ?
In German, you say a different word for a boy or a girl: hübsch for girls and süss for boys or "gut aussehend" for men
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@leomcy FWIW, my impression is that in Rromani, or at least the East European dialect of it, calling a man beautiful is idiomatic for saying that they're either gay, or desperate (to find a date). Or possibly both. But it is not supposed to be taken literally, the way you do when a woman is called beautiful.
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Camille lives at Praxis Nowreplied to Riley S. Faelan last edited by
@riley
Oh that's just marketing speak for good old fashioned "plucking your eyebrows" !
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Riley S. Faelanreplied to Riley S. Faelan last edited by
@camille Oh, and they've got other ways than just using tweezers now. There's special wax strips, for an example.