Regular reminder that getting up in arms about someone else's boundaries is a pretty good sign that someone is engaging in abusive behavior.
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Regular reminder that getting up in arms about someone else's boundaries is a pretty good sign that someone is engaging in abusive behavior.
And yes, being upset about allowlist only, FediBlock, or TBS are all examples of this.
Never have I seen a group of people more determined to continue harassment after being muted/blocked/banned than those who lost their minds when we started openly collectivizing our boundaries to keep each other safe. As has always been the case, reactionary behavior means we're doing something right.
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Stefan Bohacekreplied to the people's eva on last edited by
@tillshadeisgone This also extends to the overall topic of consent on here, if you've witnessed some of the conversations around opt-in vs opt-out fediverse features and third party services.
Seems like it should be easy to just leave people alone, especially when they ask for it. Hm.
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Fifi Lamourareplied to the people's eva on last edited by
@tillshadeisgone
It's shocking how many grown ass people still don't understand consent. There's an underlying belief that other people exist only for their use and entertainment, it's treating Othered people as exploitable objects and is dehumanizing and exploitative. Nothing outrages an abuser more than when the person being victimized creates a safe space beyond the reach of their abuse.
