You merely adopted the dark,I was born in it

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In this comic, a man is open with his feelings and reveals that he's been hiding a crippling depression that has become a facet of daily life. Something a large portion of men quietly struggle with as society frowns on men showing or expressing negative emotions.

In this comment thread, people shit on the comic for the guy not being more sympathetic to the woman.

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I mean, it's a dick move to bring it up in response to her complaint. But yeah

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men: suffering long and silently from generations of stifling social expectations and exploitation

also men: how can I make this into a competition as well?

Thassodar

Passing an egg, though...

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in this comic a man is selfishly minimizing his partner's pain, turning the relationship into an unhealthy pain contest.

there are ways to express male emotion without being an asshole about it.

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Fuck off

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Oh sorry. My personal life is more important than your opinion. Sorry if you've been told otherwise

catsarebadpeople

Yikes bud

Lemminary

Can you explain how this is misoginy? Besides it trivializong periods for the sake of the joke, I don't see the hatred behind it.

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Its like saying all lives matter, kind of. I don't think this strip is misogynist, but there should be more to it. "I'm sad all the time" is different than the very real physical pain that women experience during their periods, the general problems women have even *getting" high quality reproductive care.

If the man had said, I'm really sad right now, and she was like, "yeah well I'm on my period," and then the comic would still be about insensitivity, in this case the subject is the dismal state of mental health care.

In fact that's what this comic is about...poor access to reproductive care and poor access to mental health care. They clearly both need help and aren't getting it from our capitalist healthcare system

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Isn't the woman prompting this by saying "you don't understand"? To me that comes off like "you have it way better than me", which == immediately invalidating anything the man how's through.

Obviously doesn't mean he should have said what he did though.

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In other news an area man was killed by his wife. Police are mystified as to the reason.

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Some men are continuously menstruating?

Sure, why not? Would explain why the guy's being such a bitch.

DankOfAmerica

Unity drives clicks. We are in the age of unification. Nothing is "us vs them" and no one is ever fighting. It's so refreshing.

Gotcha! Now you're part of the problem. It's your fault!!

Xanthrax

That's the tapeworm

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I don't know which is worse, the woman treating periods like they're some feminine mystery that the male mind simply cannot wrap itself around, or the guy bragging about his untreated depression.

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This comes across as incredibly emotionally immature.

Poplar?

The world will never know my pain...

GladiusB

It's a joke? It's even in a comic from.

Like women don't bash men for how they act when they "have a fever" and it gets the six million likes.

It's meant to just be silly and funny and dark all at the same time. It seems even less mature to gaslight someone for just taking the time to actually relate.

Cris

Your argument is that I'm speaking for others, which is you argue by telling me what I meant by my own comment, based on how you interpreted it.

That's stupid. I shouldn't have to point out that that's stupid, but here we are.

With regards to your other comment, you are of course allowed to criticize what I had to say, but if you go about it in a weird, unpleasant, and hostile way, where you make assumptions about me, act entitled to knowing personal intimate details about me, poorly overanalyze my profile history, and argue what I did wrong by doing literally that exact thing to me, then I'm entirely entitled to telling you I think you're being an asshole.

The difference is that I criticized a fictional character, and you're talking to an actual human. So when you go about your disagreement in a weird, shitty way, a real human being reads what you said and is affected by it.

It would have been entirely reasonable to say "it kinda feels like you're telling other people to be mad about this, I don't think we should speak on other people's behalf". If you felt it was unclear what I meant, it would have been entirely appropriate to ask, in exactly the same way as I asked you what you meant.

I'm not unhappy you disagree with me, I'm unhappy you insist on telling me what I meant by my own comment, and are acting like you're entitled to knowing what genetailia I have. What's in my pants is none of your fucking business. it wasn't even relevant to the argument.

The way you've engaged with me has been super shitty, for no reason. Unlike the person I jokingly criticized I'm an actual human, and after criticizing me (fine, people on the internet are more hostile than they need to be for no reason, whatever), you went on to be wildly disrespectful, make assumptions, assert that I'm lying about what was meant by my original comment and that you "see through me", and play guessing games about whether I have a penis or not on the mistaken premise that having a penis makes me a man, and that being a man would invalidate my argument.

Thats not an appropriate way to engage with people. We don't get to choose whether we understand social norms or what's considered inappropriate, but that doesn't absolve you of the fact you've been a fucking asshole to me over the fact you thought I was speaking for other people when I left a joke comment under a comic.

You're not entitled to knowing personal shit about me, or what's in my pants, and you certainly don't get to speak on my behalf about what I did or didn't mean. You wanna ask what I mean? Tell me you think it came off like I'm telling people what to think? Totally appropriate. You didn't do that.

And on that note, I'm not engaging with you anymore, you're clearly either lacking the interpersonal skills to engage with people around you in a way that doesn't suck, or you're a troll and you've successfully wasted some of my time.

Have a nice day.