your monthly reminder to stop calling fascists childish

your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

@oli i like you and respect you, that’s why i care. it is for your well being and all of ours as well. when i badger folks ―online and off― it’s because i care. never take it as hatred or offense. more like mama bear love.

D. Olifant

@blogdiva You mention it's sort of an American thing, how we denigrate children and call other people children to denigrate them, too....

We're telling on ourselves.

I often feel the same way about the pointed way hetero spouses in the USA joke about each other. It's like.... do you even like being married to each other?

your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

@oli EXACTLY! it’s, at the very least, fucking weird. another one is the parent whining about wanting to get rid of their teenagers. the “finally! and empty nest!”. WTF is that about? if you really wanted children, why do you want to get rid of them, and at an age when they need mentoring into adulthood the most. Americans, as a culture, hate kids and teens. it’s chilling, tbh.

Jen

@blogdiva @oli I'm pretty sure you get it from us Brits.

From notions like "children should be seen and not heard," to concepts like cuddling babies "too much" spoils them, our culture is all about pushing children away and making them conform to our cold stiff-upper-lip society. It wasn't until I had my own kids that I realised how much normal human behaviour - breastfeeding, carrying babies, cosleeping - is rejected by our culture. It's worse here than most of western Europe.

Nat Oleander

@blogdiva YESSS, I was just saying this to @nullagent yesterday! so many people calling trump a "toddler" or a "man baby" and it is super disturbing. shows how we do not take the needs & demands of children seriously. they just want to be loved & held, & THAT IS WHAT THEY NEED!!

Adults need to be held accountable. When we call them children as a fucking *insult*, we are showing exactly what we think of children.

your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

it really says how much americans hate children. it explains the culture’s lack of empathy and why they aren't doing anything about fascists. y’all groomed into nihilistic hate from the womb. that’s why am serious about the deprogramming.

motherhood radicalized me because i allowed my kids to break my sense of selfishness. choosing to have children for the chance of understanding unconditional love is radical.

@nat @nullagent

Nat Oleander

@blogdiva @nullagent We have normalized traumatizing children at every step and blaming them for their needs, their trauma, and their trauma responses.

Having my own baby now makes it all the more heartbreaking to see childism everywhere in our culture.

Vincarsi

@blogdiva @nat @nullagent "motherhood radicalised me" same, tbh. Before we had kids, hubby insisted I read the research on the parenting style I grew up with. It honestly still shocked me how little community support there was for actually treating your kids like human beings. I really think that so many of society's problems would be way more solvable if we didn't train children into this punitive mindset that lacks compassion in favour of control. Ppl say it's human nature, but it's programmed

Nat Oleander

@Vincarsi @blogdiva @nullagent AND THIS IS WHY COMPASSIONATE & PRESENT PARENTING IS SUCH A RADICAL & NECESSARY ACT.

I have to remind myself of this when I feel like I'm not doing enough. Even though I literally sacrificed my autonomy & health to grow a whole entire human & I'm parenting full-time in ways that are truly nurturing.

God it's hard but it is so worth it.

Vincarsi

@nat @blogdiva @nullagent The relationships we have with our parents sets the default for how we expect to be treated the rest of our lives. Treat them with respect and autonomy and they learn that their needs and boundaries matter. Treat them like adorable property and they will always have to work harder to not be a doormat. Teachers are pissed that gen Alpha won't stand in lines properly, but I think it's a win that more kids won't obey without question