It’s so telling that #TimWalz is “redefining” American masculinity.

[joshuaholland@mastodon.social]

It’s so telling that #TimWalz is “redefining” American masculinity. The guy’s a stereotypical macho man—veteran, hunter and football coach—but the fact that he’s also a nice dude makes it a paradigm shift.

He isn’t known for his baking or knitting skills. We’ve just come to associate masculinity with being a dick. #Election2024

[mekkaokereke@hachyderm.io]

@JoshuaHolland

Periodic reminder:

* Black men see themselves as more masculine than white men
* White men see Black men as more masculine than white men
* Black men are significantly overrepresented in the NFL, NBA, fighting sports, the military, etc
* Black men are more likely to care about the environment, wear a mask, hug their men friends, participate in childcare, etc

mekka okereke :verified: (@[email protected])

@blikkie @[email protected] @[email protected] @[email protected] We say that masculine men don't care about the environment. But again, the issue isn't gender, gender identity, or gender expression. It's race, and differences in perceived masculinity by race. Non-white men are *more* likely to care about the environment, than white women. 🙂🙃 https://hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/110956029122198257

Hachyderm.io (hachyderm.io)

"American masculinity," is a euphemism for a very specific white US concept of masculinity.

[mekkaokereke@hachyderm.io]

@JoshuaHolland

49% of Black men view themselves as "very masculine." I view myself as very masculine.‍️

I didn't need to wait for Tim Walz to tell me that it's OK to hug your friends and tell them you love them, or to be present in childcare, or that it's fine to buy feminine hygiene products for your partner, or that wearing a mask is OK, or that we should care about other people, or that the environment should be protected.

And I'm not unique. This is typical Black dude stuff. ‍️

[gabriel@mastodon.samfira.com]

@mekkaokereke @JoshuaHolland I wasn't blessed with black skin, but at least I seem to have adopted the black male version of masculinity. I never knew giving your friends hugs, telling them that you love them or being an involved parent was considered "unmasculine".

To me that just sounds like being a d**k.

[ramsey@phpc.social]

@gabriel @mekkaokereke @JoshuaHolland I was thinking about my family tree recently, and none of the male role models I’ve had on either side of my family have fit the traditional societal view of masculinity. Now, at 45 looking back, I consider myself lucky to have had those role models. They were all masculine, but they displayed sensitivity, sentimentality, and empathy, so I grew up knowing these traits were okay for men to display.

[cshlan@dawdling.net]

@ramsey
@gabriel @mekkaokereke @JoshuaHolland @risottobias
I know I have a small view of society but while the "traditional" white masculinity I grew up around was bad enough, I feel like the most toxic parts have been growing over the past few decades.

The men I grew up around didn't show softer emotions in public so much but they were definitely sentimental and sensitive and didn't think those things were bad. Just private.