New (slightly grumpy) blog post: The admin burden of keeping friendships alive (and failing?)
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New (slightly grumpy) blog post: The admin burden of keeping friendships alive (and failing?)
Okay, so this is perhaps more of a grumble than usual.
But perhaps I’m just a bit more grumpy than usual.
Or introspective.
In short, I’m finding the admin burden of keeping some friendships alive quite hard.
...Is this just me?
https://neilzone.co.uk/2024/06/the-admin-burden-of-keeping-friendships-alive-and-failing/
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@neil it's not just you. I've always found friends tend to be fixed to a time or place. If I'm about I can always catch up fairly easily, but it's out of sight out of mind otherwise.
One poem that shows the transience that is the Poem "Rainy Night" by Dorothy Parker.
I've always loved the verse.
"I am sister to the rain;
Fey and sudden and unholy,
Petulant at the windowpane,
Quickly lost, remembered slowly."It's resonated for me since my early 20s.
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@neil there's also the contexts of the time of life when I made those friends, where they are and where I am.
We change and make new friends. So our earlier friendships kinda get pushed back, especially if we move cities, have kids etc.
I've always been a bit transient in my life, so I've never developed the tighter bonds some folk have.
I have a few friends that are tight.