The rules are made up and the points don't matter

Tarquinn2049

Did she happen to mention there is, in practice, a difference between casual and formal communication? And that different rules apply to each?

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Completely depends on culture. Even in the US, I like working in the northeast because people ignore each other and it's fantastic. In the south it actually impedes my work because it seems like everyone wants to have meaningless conversations all the time.

AwesomeLowlander

Please don't misquote me, I said nothing of the sort.

*Isn't necessarily means >0% chance
*Probably means >50% chance

They are not the same

Sabata

You're not a threat and you don't set my nervous system into meltdown. It's the level of abstraction that I need to interact at all.

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Or God forbid someone just disagree with the way you said something and express it without needlessly aggressively defending of it because it's not ok apparently to adjust your point.

We need not rely on pedantry to cover why your statement was poorly received in some ways. In either casual or formal I still find your comment distasteful and I would not be alone even if you are not in support. If you think I misunderstood your point remake it for better understanding or else you insist that that was the one you wanted to make without change.
I just don't care when people get upset when I push back against their engrained thoughts cause it truly doesn't matter if you think of me poorly for as long as you remember my existence. My point is to be opposing you in that statement.

I'm not going to back off of it because you think mine invalid. That was likely always to be the case no matter the tone or verbage I used. This it's not for you. It's so the pushback exists at all. So that there isn't a world with only your opinion and take in it.

So I put it back into the world again.
No it's not normal to be so against your neighbors existence that you consider them buffoons for existing in a social space to the point that you simply have to wait for them to leave, and no that's not normal of social anxiety to have no mechanism to handle that other than seething anger at others.

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People who say Lemmy is not a social media site might just be right.
Because apparently the people here do not want to be social they just want the media.

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The whole neighborhood, for the most part, consists of friends. It's employee housing for a ski resort so they're all at least coworkers, with the exception of the cop who doesn't do anything but is used as a threat against everyone else by the landlord and me who's an unemployed arguably crazy person who's trying to get on disability for the seizures and is allowed to stay since I sleep on my dad's couch and he gets along great with the resort.

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I think you might have taken the cartoon too seriously in the first place... it's literally a "cartoonish exaggeration", we don't literally hate these people, we are fully aware they are normal and doing normal things... though from your posts, it does seem like taking things literally is possibly a common occurrence in your life. We are having fun here, or at least the rest of us are, we thought you were too.

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Not me. I even talk to people in the bathroom.

Owl

You are their neighbor and they are yours. Why should they say hi first and not you ?

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no cap, it's really skibidi

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Never really got this myself. Maybe it's not a rational thing since who gives a fuck?

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I'm usually rushing out somewhere when I leave the house and a few of my neighbors are talkers, which I normally don't mind at all. But sometimes it makes more sense to just wait inside for a minute rather than get stuck in a 5 minute conversation.

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I need this explained.

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a r t s t y l e

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Finally

Asocial media

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Oh yeah it's completely irrational. Used to be like this myself particularly when living in a dorm during college. Couldn't tell you what I was scared of to be clear. No thoughts led me there, no experiance with people, no issue with talking to people even. I know if just walked out I'd be fine

When I was next to the door and heard someone in the hall I'd just feel nervous and fearful. I'd standby the door with my ear against it steadying my breath without making a sound until the were gone. Particularly aweful when the bathroom was down the hall you know.

Notaclue what changed either I just kinda stopped caring at a point

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The old people always want to talk and I'm too nice to cut them off. There is no other choice but to avoid them at all costs.

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Yes. Their violent neighbor broke in earlier and is currently using their bathroom, much to the embarrassment of the protagonist

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This is why people moved en masse to suburbs. You go to your car and drive away, rarely even see a neighbor. I've spoken to a neighbor once in the last year and it was because we were both shoveling snow (it was yesterday). We shoveled for an hour in silence but we kept getting closer to the street (she's across the street). At some point we were only about 20 feet from each other and the silence was awkward. At least it was just a 30 second convo.