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People with signs aren't gonna be judgemental that you're poor. Having no excess money would be a step up for most homeless people.
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People still carry change or cash in general?
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People still carry change or cash in general?
If you're a parent to a small child, the power of a £1 coin can be hilarious to behold
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People with signs aren't gonna be judgemental that you're poor. Having no excess money would be a step up for most homeless people.
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I have a very simple policy of pretending I'm allergic to cash. I hate carrying it anyway, so my policy in the event that I find myself saddled with some old fashioned paper money or coinage, is to give it away to the first person who asks. Whether it is a dollar or 2, or 20 or 200.
I understand this isn't practical for everyone but it is for me and so it is my policy. I don't care if you look like you need it, and I actually don't even care if you do need it. If you're sitting outside in a Chicago winter to ask for it, and I have it on me, you're getting it.
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I have a very simple policy of pretending I'm allergic to cash. I hate carrying it anyway, so my policy in the event that I find myself saddled with some old fashioned paper money or coinage, is to give it away to the first person who asks. Whether it is a dollar or 2, or 20 or 200.
I understand this isn't practical for everyone but it is for me and so it is my policy. I don't care if you look like you need it, and I actually don't even care if you do need it. If you're sitting outside in a Chicago winter to ask for it, and I have it on me, you're getting it.
Hey, got any spare cash?
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I don't get it. The person did exactly what the devil asked. So why is the devil surprised?
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Hey, got any spare cash?
Yes, I have 7 dollars. Hold out your hand.
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If you're a parent to a small child, the power of a £1 coin can be hilarious to behold
10p for a Fredo could've had the same effect on me once
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pulls out a money bag complete with the dollar sign on it
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If you're a parent to a small child, the power of a £1 coin can be hilarious to behold
Wait
Is this something I should know? I have a 7 year old and I'm really needing an upper hand right about now
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People still carry change or cash in general?
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Is this something I should know? I have a 7 year old and I'm really needing an upper hand right about now
Okay so, caveat: mine is only six and they're the stereotypical hyperactive ADHD kid. Your mileage will likely vary.
Kids who are like him are constantly in need of something to be doing, some achievable task just within their grasp. Also, they're quite blind when it comes to the perception of time, so any amount of time spent "bored" (which means not rocketing towards the next moment in which they can shout in triumph) feels like an eternity. He can go from the throes of bliss to collapsing on the floor within ten seconds flat.
He damn near broke my brain with this shitshow, but I've finally figured out the foregoing. Knowing this puts the constant struggle at least into a coherent frame of reference.
All this to say, any and all tangible, immediate rewards are what serves him in place of a functional endogenous dopamine system. He can't just internally think "I need to get dressed for school" and begin to do it, it has to be "I'm not allowed to ____* until I get dressed". A coin isn't a coin, it's a physical embodiment of the dopamine spike used by the brain to initiate a task.
Once they're on a task, they just go until something breaks the spell. Small immediate rewards, or the promise of getting them easily can work magic.
That's all highly subjective, biased, likely flawed etc but it's kept me... If not sane, at least faking it enough that people don't comment. If your kiddo has other struggles I probably haven't said anything of use to you.
*In our case, unhappily, it is phone time, which is also highly regulated.
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Okay so, caveat: mine is only six and they're the stereotypical hyperactive ADHD kid. Your mileage will likely vary.
Kids who are like him are constantly in need of something to be doing, some achievable task just within their grasp. Also, they're quite blind when it comes to the perception of time, so any amount of time spent "bored" (which means not rocketing towards the next moment in which they can shout in triumph) feels like an eternity. He can go from the throes of bliss to collapsing on the floor within ten seconds flat.
He damn near broke my brain with this shitshow, but I've finally figured out the foregoing. Knowing this puts the constant struggle at least into a coherent frame of reference.
All this to say, any and all tangible, immediate rewards are what serves him in place of a functional endogenous dopamine system. He can't just internally think "I need to get dressed for school" and begin to do it, it has to be "I'm not allowed to ____* until I get dressed". A coin isn't a coin, it's a physical embodiment of the dopamine spike used by the brain to initiate a task.
Once they're on a task, they just go until something breaks the spell. Small immediate rewards, or the promise of getting them easily can work magic.
That's all highly subjective, biased, likely flawed etc but it's kept me... If not sane, at least faking it enough that people don't comment. If your kiddo has other struggles I probably haven't said anything of use to you.
*In our case, unhappily, it is phone time, which is also highly regulated.
Ahhh ok. Yes. The reward IS something I'm dependent on (my kid was just diagnosed with ASD and ADHD [turns out one can have both]) and it works well. I just didn't know if there was a special thing that worked with a coin.
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Ahhh ok. Yes. The reward IS something I'm dependent on (my kid was just diagnosed with ASD and ADHD [turns out one can have both]) and it works well. I just didn't know if there was a special thing that worked with a coin.
Not really. It's not so useful unless you can dangle it over the right thing. But at the park? Say you send them on a scavenger hunt. You want two pretty leaves, five bits of litter, and one cool rock or stick for £1.
They clean the park, you get to sit on the bench for a few minutes and relax. Now, isn't that worth a pound?
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People still carry change or cash in general?
There's the odd off license that only takes cash. My card might not work for whatever silly reason. I usually carry £1 or 2 (separately from my wallet) for the off chance of running into a beggar.
I'm also on my way to the library at the moment, where the foreign language talking class costs £2 in cash.
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Hold out a £20 note and set fire to it in front of them. You know, like some of our politicians did when they were in uni.
