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Executive dystfunction is a symptom of ADHD and one that I have a hard time explaining to others. Most people I know don’t understand that even if I actually want to do something, sometimes I literally just can’t start doing it or I have to do weird shit like this to like talk myself into it.

Getting medicated helps a lot if you find the right meds. Honestly the current meds I’m on don’t help as much with focus, but they do help with just being able to fucking do shit and that’s the greater benefit in my opinion. The fact I can just think “oh I should do the dishes” and then start doing the dishes without having to think about doing it for half an hour before starting is still mind blowing to me sometimes.

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My partner is gonna be thrilled when she gets home and smells that I showered today even though I have the day off and it’s raining outside. Breaking a three day streak. If I didn’t feel kinda sick (caught from her being much worse), I might not have bothered, but I wanted the steam to help with sinuses.

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I'm pretty severe ADHD and my wife has it too. Honestly unless someone either has ADHD or has had someone important in their life with it I'm not sure they truly understand executive disfunction.

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Yo, your brain is talking wtf

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I dunno what you play or how, but try playing blind (no looking up solutions), and not try to not min/max the game. Both of those take the fun out of the game really fast.

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Autist checking in, its a big problem for many of us too.

Yesterday I discovered a new tactic for the stuff I had been putting off all year. I started getting so angry at the fact that ive been putting myself though agony all year over some tasks that would take a few hours I nearly saw red.

I powered through them in about 4 hours, and I probably spent 400 hours agonizing over them.

I dubbed it ragetasking

Not healthy but it worked, not sure if I can harness it again haha

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But isn't playing "blind" the standard way to beat a game?

deaf_fish

Sounds like depression.

Queen HawlSera

The fact shit like this is possible is why I believe we are more than just the brain.

If we were only the brain, we couldn't argue with it. If we were just the body, we couldn't be at odds with it. We would merely be slaves to our impulses, the fact that we aren't is all the proof I need.

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Apparently we are actually two brains. And one half can't talk. But does make choices on its own that can disagree with the other half.

Something they used to do is cut the connecting tissue between the two brain half's. People who have had that happen have explain how the difference sides of their bodies will sometimes disagree with the other. And when that happens the talking half might come up a really non sensical reasoning to why it did what it did.

CGP Grey did a video on it. And if you search split brains you can probably find more. There an interview with someone on YouTube I watched a long time ago.

Ephera

There's nothing dictating that your brain needs to have one decisive opinion. It's just a bunch of nerve cells firing due to stimuli. Some of those nerve cells can be firing one thing and others can be firing another thing. To my knowledge, they actually do that quite regularly, and then if there's a particularly strong firing, it'll serve as a stimulus for more firings, which typically leads to some sort of 'consensus' in our head, e.g. most of the parts of a memory that got encoded into the nerve cells being fired off.

At this point, I am just spitballing, but I imagine, if you've got very many external stimuli or also barely any like in the comic, then the brain isn't pushed towards such a consensus-firing, so then the internal stimuli from one thought stimulating a different thought may just kind of ping-pong in your head.

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Not for everyone, and not for every game.

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Yea, but many people play while alt-tabbing to a guide or wiki.

nifty

“What’s the point” aka living while depressed

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Yea i would definitely use that power sparingly lol. My dad was undiagnosed with ADHD till his 40s and he used rage/anger to get things done all throughout his younger years and he has a lot of stomach problems due to a number of factors such as severe reflux and other similar things. Not saying they were all directly caused by the anger, but it's pretty accepted with my family and others that the anger probably exacerbated things.

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If the source is to be trusted:

Evidence indicates both disorders co-occur with a high frequency, in 20-50% of children with ADHD meeting criteria for ASD and in 30-80% of ASD children meeting criteria for ADHD.

Shared heritability of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder and autism spectrum disorder - PubMed

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and autism spectrum disorder (ASD) are both highly heritable neurodevelopmental disorders. Evidence indicates both disorders co-occur with a high frequency, in 20-50% of children with ADHD meeting criteria for ASD and in 30-80% of ASD children meeting …

PubMed (pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov)

Also in the past, at least in US with DSM-4 it was thought that ASD and ADHD are mutually exclusive, so there's probably a lot of people incorrectly missing that diagnosis.

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For me it was the opposite. Whenever I tried some game and I didn't have luck it got boring. But passing it with god-power cheats was fun. Hell, I had most fun with GTA-SA after going through the game with cheats and then blowing up everything and everyone and spawning random vehicles to either use or blow up as well.

I probably spent the most time with train and planes. Also I think car mods, I don't remember it that well anymore. Yeah, I think there was that mod garage, definitely. That was a lof of fun too.

For me, cheats made 95% of the fun.

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Haha thanks. I found out in my early 40s as well, I just assumed I was just a lazy procrastinator my whole life until that point, and not naturally angry. I dealt with this and other symptoms by self medicating with weed and being a stoner for most of my adult life.

Agreed that it is two sides of the same coin.

Midnight Wolf

My definition is "knowing literally nothing", with an exception for watching a video that gives a review or first-look. Thus, I can play blind exactly once, per game. I will only seek help if I get stuck for a while (hour+).

Often friends look to me for opinions of games, and assuming it's a game I'm interested in, I'll either stream or record my own blind 'review'. Everything from the second I hit launch, gets included. I have turned away groups of people because of my criticisms, as if a game is shit I'll explain in excruciating detail how, and bitch about it every time it fucks with the experience. Kinda similar to AVGN's style. It can be therapitic for me, and save a bunch of friends a bunch of money.

The whole 'min/max' bullshit isn't gaming, it's a glorified spreadsheet exercise. Yawn. Going in and just doing stuff is what games are all about, for me. I recently started playing gran turismo 4 and I chose a daihatsu k-car minivan with like 53hp and fwd, as my starter car. Makes no sense, makes winning really hard or literally impossible. But I liked the car and fuck it, everyone would go with a miata or something similar, but that's boring, let's see how this does. It actually can win (some) races, if you disregard racing rules, plow straight as you can through chicanes, around barriers and through the environment. The game isn't penalizing me so it's a 'legit strat'...

Playing 'blind' is the only way, imo. And worry more about fun than competitiveness. If you're a skilled player you can beat others with better items/gear/cars regardless. And if you aren't skilled yet, you'll try harder to get there learning more than others.

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I used to that pretty much exclusively, but it got boring eventually.