People are all different

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Why have sex when you can have cake?

Because the cake is a lie, duh

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You just haven't met the right vase yet.

Tanis Nikana

And here I am, sex-repulsed asexual. The whole sex thing is just incredibly gross, and I’m taking this virginity to my grave (I’m 39, I’m over halfway there!) and no one can stop me. I’ve never even been sexually aroused at all.

Indeed, all types are present.

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Surely you see how saying "I don't like sex" and "I have sex" seem contradictory, right? If you express those two ideas how is it not logical to conclude that you're either just an idiot or are talking about rape? How does those two statements lead to the conclusion of "you most be asexual"?

If your a person who has sex, what makes you asexual and not a person with low libido?

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That step 1 is the bit I have trouble with. I can picture people I don't like who I don't want sex with (though also some I do)

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As I understand it, some ace people find sex gross and obviously want to avoid anything relating to it it, but some are neutral towards it. If they are with a partner that likes sex, then they may enjoy having sex because it makes their partner happy. Or maybe they find the physical sensations enjoyable, but not looking at porn/people. Or maybe they just want to do it for good prostate health.

They are not contradictory because "I don't like sex" (which I didn't actually say) doesn't necessarily imply "I dislike the idea of sex".

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Think of some other animal then. Are you fond of anything but also don't want to fuck them? The horny libido light just never turns on.

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You really have no people you like but don't want to have sex with? No one who's like 8 or 80?

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It really was a joke. I guess tone doesn't carry over in text when one makes no attempt to show it

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I don't understand why you need to do public something that is supposed so be part of your private life. What do you expect to get from society when you show your sexual or non sexual preference? You will be always be rejected by a portion of it. Just because you are different. For me is irrelevant what other choose, they are people just like me and that's enough. I don't have to discuss about those things with anyone. It's the choose and freedom as humans.

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For me is irrelevant what other choose, they are people just like me and that’s enough.

As far as I understand, the whole point is that some people don't think it's irrelevant and discriminate others based on their sexuality (or lack thereof). So they make it public and open up about it to show that it is not bad and lots of people are like that - that's kinda the whole point of the pride parades I think?

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There will be always people that don't like you because you are different . Because is a personal and private subject. They feel they can judge . So is like feeding them. We have to protect of private and personal word. I don't agree is the way.

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Eh I mostly agree with you but if you really expand the scale of it all I think it starts to at least make a little more sense why some smaller groups pop up now and then raising awareness for one specific proclivity or the other. Actually it has a lot to do with what you just expressed I think.

It sounds like your opinion about preference and rejection comes from a place of self confidence. That's a good thing but I'm sure you can imagine how that could be harder for people who don't understand themselves and their own feelings as well.

For many people, sexual preferences are not a big personal issue that will cause them a great deal of stress in their day to day life. For some, the very fact that they do not align with their peers can make things really uncomfortable and uncertain especially around the more formitive years of establishing who they are as a person even just in their own mind.

Even heterosexual people have to achieve that introspection but we get the benefit of having lots of personal relationships with similar leaning people to build our frames of references.

Sometimes that is also an optuion for the more common non-heterosexual variations but that is mostly thanks to the greatly increased social presence which has the simultaneous effect of reducing the general stigma around such topics.

The more successful these groups oh like minded people become in projecting their influence the less they need to do so but most of the groups who championed these causes over the last decade or so realized how powerful an impact just growing awareness had for so many people that would otherwise have no support from their peers and while it's not quite as necessary to raise awareness as much for the most common members (the L-esbians, G-ay, B-isexuals...) the rest are still trying to catch up with the leading edge of the awareness movement.

TLDR, the spreading of broad awareness isn't so much about labeling themselves for people who don't care as it is for the benefit of others who feel the same way but don't know they have peers that can help them understand themselves.

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Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it's just the "physical" aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it's never tied to a particular person or body part. The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not "in the mood" to eat anything

Thank you. This actually really cleared up the middle row of the comic for me.

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They don't want to have to hide who they are, make up lies, etc. They are demanding the right to be who they are. I think it's great.

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100%.

I'm all for acceptance but broadcasting your sexuality is strange and unnecessary. I understand there's some need for it, but the amount of shit on Lemmy about your sexual orientation is overboard. I don't care or want to know who you fuck.

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I've never understood it the other way around, you definitionally have to have your cake to eat it.

What one wants to do is eat the cake and then still have it...

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Those people are called bigots and we should continue to expose and ridicule them for their idiotic biases.

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Gay couples shouldnt have to stay secret, trans people shouldnt have to stay locked in their homes.
I deserve to exist as a human in public.

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I guess it always felt the same to me as when they said I'd eventually want a baby.

When I was younger and living in a conservative area, it seemed like I was broken. where people often started conversations by asking about my husband/boyfriend/crush before hitting oh, you must be one of those weird women who doesn't want husband/house/kids. a lesbian. (you'll obviously eventually want sex and progeny. to do otherwise is just... immature, especially in a woman.)

When I was older and had moved to an area with a lot more different kinds of folks and it came up less, it's just who I am. if some wiseass thinks they know better about how I feel - well, they're definitely not relationship material. not even friends.

and it's a spectrum. I currently have a partner I see every 6-8 weeks, which works for us. but for decades it would be easier to say I was ace than try to explain the circumstances where that might change.