Decisions

[honeymustardgas@lemmy.world]

Good thing he has three things to push all the buttons with......

[hidingunderhats@lemmy.world]

Gotta find a non-patronizing way to ask if they need help, a hug, or to be heard.

[edgemaster72@lemmy.world]

"that's crazy"

[yarharsuperstar@lemmy.world]

Or maybe ask what they need from you? Just a thought.

[kolanaki@yiffit.net]

There is a secret fourth option:

Give hug

[unclestewart@sh.itjust.works]

[phobosanomaly@feddit.uk]

It works spectacularly well with people you're close to or on very good terms with.

If my other half is kicking off about something, a quick "hey listen, are you wanting help to fix this or are you wanting to vent like fuck to feel a bit better?"

It's rarely the former, though I'd be more than happy to help if it was. At least then I can let her rage out and decompress without throwing in unwanted suggestions.

Probably comes across as a bit blunt to people you don't know well though.

[catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone]

Haha so true!

[rigatti@lemmy.world]

Haha So True!

[xeekei@lemm.ee]

The Paragon interrupt.

[septimaeus@infosec.pub]

And then what happened?
That must be really hard for you.
Wow. You don’t deserve that.
How do you feel about it now?
Ugh. That sounds awful.
You’re handling this better than I would.
How do you even respond to that?
Tell me about it.
What can I do to help?
You’ve got this, but I’m here.

[midnight_puker@sh.itjust.works]

I'm more of a "well, shit" guy myself.

[ivanafterall@lemmy.world]

This is slowly being replaced by ing or ️‍ing the message. No actual words needed.

[ivanafterall@lemmy.world]

"Frankly, you brought this all on yourself" usually resolves it quickly, in my experience.

[veroxii@aussie.zone]

"my first girlfriend turned into the moon"

[mrvilliam@lemm.ee]

Glad my wife and I aren't the only ones. It's frustrating to explain why proposed solutions won't work while already worked up over stressful bullshit. Sometimes there just aren't real solutions. Sometimes you just need to open a pressure relief valve for a minute so you can have a little reset and be better equipped to tackle the mountain of bullshit.

[klear@lemmy.world]

That sucks.

[0ops@lemm.ee]

Whatcha want from me?

[greyeyedghost@lemmy.ca]

That sucks.

[bradd@lemmy.world]

Thanks, man.