They/Them

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In Finnish language there are no gender specific pronouns only gender neutral one hän/hänen.

They/them still sounds weird to use even if I know it can be used to refer single person. When talking or writing fast I'll still often accidentally default to using he/him even for females which I then have to correct.

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Don't use it then.

The only time you would ever need to use someone's pronouns is when they're not part of the conversation anyway.

I couldn't care less what people refer to me as if I'm not there.

Semi-Hemi-Lemmygod

I get irked when someone says “he or she,” especially repeatedly, because the singular “they” is so much easier to hear and read.

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The only time you would ever need to use someone’s pronouns is when they’re not part of the conversation anyway.

no? it would be weird to use in a one-on-one conversation, true. but it is fairly common to use the third person pronoun of someone during a group conversation, even while they are there

Semi-Hemi-Lemmygod

Youse guys should use the plural you

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I had this exact same problem growing up. When I started drinking excessive amounts of beer the pressure became enough to break through, and I finally started burping. That somehow fixed my body completely, and I've been able to burp normally ever since, but my God I'll never forget the pain of being unable to burp. Literally the worst pain of my life

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"I was with Dan the other day. They forgot their keys at home. They said they had to go back to get them."

Literally not hard at all?

Skua

By chance I actually do come from an area that uses it! Although it's more of a "yiz" here

Cruxifux

These people don’t care if it’s grammatically correct. They just don’t like trans people.

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Someone correct me, but "you" was originally plural. The correct way to address a singular person is "thou".

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You sound fun to hang out with. I'm in.

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I'm glad you can belch now.

Pelicanen

I think it's originally from Red vs Blue

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When I started interacting with a non-binary person more often, the only reflexive pronoun that came to mind was ‘themselves.’ As in, “They bought themselves a pair of socks for their birthday.” It felt a bit awkward since I couldn’t shake the plural association in my head, but I still used it to be respectful.

Then I remembered that the word ‘themself’ exists and I felt stupid.

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Thou are correct.

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No no, hear me out.

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I don't do this, and growing up was taught that it was rude to refer to someone by anything other than their name in a group conversation.

CarrotsHaveEars

Dear native English speakers, would you mind inventing a new word either for gender-neutral third-person singular pronoun, or one for what "they" mean to foreign English speakers since you are so insisted in differing its meaning from the text books you shipped us decades ago?

English is so inconsistent at this point. Only the third-person pronouns have gender in singular form, the plural form has no gender and now you are telling us the gender-less form can be singular now? How confusing!

English is widespread partly because it has simple alphabet and relatively easy grammar. I don't mind someone being in LGBT+ group at all, but could you please don't mess with the language?

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In "who left their bag here"'s case, the gender of the person is not known because their identity isn't known, so it doesn't feel strange to use (for us old farts). It can take some effort to retrain your brain to use "they" when it's a single person whose identity is known (speaking from experience as a Gen Xer).

Or the person might just be a transphobic asshole. But I like to think that most just need to educate themselves on using pronouns correctly.

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So you're going to refer to John by John's name exclusively? Sounds a bit awkward, but okay.