once more and yet again, if the main thrust of your "apology" is a nonspecific "i'm better now and but i don't want anything from you other than for you to know i'm sorry" you have not meaningfully apologized, and we have nothing to go on for rebuildin...

[atax1a@infosec.exchange]

once more and yet again, if the main thrust of your "apology" is a nonspecific "i'm better now and but i don't want anything from you other than for you to know i'm sorry" you have not meaningfully apologized, and we have nothing to go on for rebuilding any kind of meaningful communication

[atax1a@infosec.exchange]

it would be nice if, say, there were some visible consideration of how your actions affected us

[atax1a@infosec.exchange]

how have you changed? what did you realize you did wrong? why was it wrong?

and whY IS IT MY FUCKING JOB TO GUIDE YOU TO THIS?

[atax1a@infosec.exchange]

as it turns out, we have exactly 0 use for white guilt

[cestfleuve@mastodon.nz]

@atax1a what a difference it would make if people made a point of talking about how they've done harm, what the problems were with the thought patterns that lead them there, and reached out to people in those patterns currently to help them break the cycle too

[atax1a@infosec.exchange]

@cestfleuve this is literally all we ask, and all we offer, and yet very few people are interested in either providing it themselves or hearing us out. either we get absolute malthusian "you are ontologically evil" or empty words served on a soggy saltine