:zerotwo_learn: If someone uses the incorrect pronouns for someone, especially a trans person, after being corrected and/or uses their deadname (necronym), you're looking at a transphobe, full stop.
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:zerotwo_learn: If someone uses the incorrect pronouns for someone, especially a trans person, after being corrected and/or uses their deadname (necronym), you're looking at a transphobe, full stop.
No matter how much social justice and anti-bigotry language they may bathe themselves in, no matter how they may position themselves as "advocating for the marginalised", no matter how much you may respect them for other actions, these are *bare minimum* things, right up there with not using ethnic slurs.
p.s. for a trans person, having a necronym outed to the public is literally life-threatening, whether that leads to direct physical abuse (including death) or discrimination and abuse from entities like companies and communities (which can also all too easily lead to death) :zerotwo_yikes:
#SocialJustice #Abuse #Bigotry #Transphobia :boosts_ok:
p.s. show this to your cis or het friends because holy hells, right now, the faves and boosts are like 95% trans-fems right now :psyduck_sweat:
p.p.s. yaaay, faves and boosts have balanced out a little bit :shiba_love:
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Chelreplied to Octavia con Amore :pink_moon_and_stars: on last edited by
@OctaviaConAmore today on things that I can’t believe need to be explained :bunhdgoogly:
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Octavia con Amore :pink_moon_and_stars:replied to Chel on last edited by
@Chel yeaaah, it's always concerning...this isn't even subtle :emolga_sweat: but whatever, I've been a teacher in some form or other for most of my life, and if I can get even a few more people educated about this, I'm happy to expend time and energy on it, repeatedly if needs be :zerotwo_shrug:
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Risottoreplied to Octavia con Amore :pink_moon_and_stars: on last edited by
@OctaviaConAmore @Chel the amount of people who easily get when their niece gets married and gets a new last name, vs when their grandkid changes gender, is disappointing.
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Octavia con Amore :pink_moon_and_stars:replied to Octavia con Amore :pink_moon_and_stars: on last edited by
:zerotwo_learn: I hope it goes without saying that people who condone these actions, especially in a continued, targeted way, are actively attempting to commit the sort of harm I described. As well-maintained as my little corner of fedi is due to the efforts of our mayor, I've been rather disappointed over the last few days to find boosts ending up in my feed where the original poster has or is condoning or even encouraging such behaviour (up to and including fantasizing about murdering trans women).
It is oh so easy to go along with a mob, to encourage harm to trans people, but I'd like to encourage anyone that reads this to take a moment, take a breath, and see why someone would be in support of targetting and harming trans people. Much like antisemitism, transphobia tends to be a canary in the coal mine and, often, people espousing these views harbour plenty more bigotries besides :cat_facepalm: and if you're confused, remember that someone's actions reveal far more than just their words.
Trans folks, especially trans women, are often severely punished for speaking out against bigotry sent their way. If you'd like to help make this world (whether it's your friend group, fedi instance, or even larger spaces) a slightly better place, you can use whatever voice you have to call bigoted actions into question and hold people accountable for their bigoted words and actions :hug_love: