Now, while *I'm* not a gender abolitionist, I will say that I did read this one zine last year that I thought was making points, so I'm going to post some excerpts.
"Against Gender, Against Society (This is What a Feminist Looks Like)," by ninjabikeslut
https://transreads.org/against-gender-against-society-this-is-what-a-feminist-looks-like/
"What is gender and what is it to be gendered? Genders are socially constructed categories that correspond to nebulous parameters surrounding behaviors, sexualities, aesthetics, socio-cultural roles, bodies, et cetera. Genders concretize differently in different places, times, and individuals; some will experience gender as very constricting, while others will never hit the boundaries their genders impose on them. Gender is inextricably connected to sexuality, and both perpetually shape and define each other. The two most commonly imposed genders are man/male and woman/female, and to stray away from them, move amongst them or act against them summons the enforcement agents of society. Gender benefits those who want to control, socialize, and manage us and offers us nothing in return. Every time a person is scrutinized and gendered, society has attacked them, confined them, waged war on them."