@natty @Chloe I'm well aware that she's exercised poor judgment in dealing with these incidents, to say the least - her repeated attempts at intercession in abusive relationships are certainly cause for concern. I believe her motivation to help abuse victims is genuine, but far exceeds her ability to do so, especially given the stresses involved.

Frankly, she just isn't as well-equipped for that sort of thing as she thinks she is; I hope that is not as uncharitable for me to say as it may sound, because I think the salient point here is not the lack in her own ability but the gravity, complexity, and danger of what she means to do.

I understand that some may see these impending blocks as an intervention, of sorts, but I just can't agree that this is the best way to handle this. I fear this will only serve to further isolate her, weakening her support system when we should be trying to pull her back from the brink in a less adversarial way.

@Chloe I can agree, at least, that it would be in Ashten's best interest to entrust the head admin position to someone else (who, though?) of her own volition and, I think, for her own sake; while clearly capable of balancing that power and responsibility well when nothing's amiss, the pressure she's under in the face of dealing with abusers and accusations is evidently not good for her or those in her charge.

It's telling to me, though, that other moderators and the like seem to think it more convenient, perhaps, to address her in particular as a problem. It doesn't seem to matter what she has to say about what's going on. It doesn't seem to matter what her motives are, or what the context is. It doesn't seem to matter that pressuring her to give into their demands or be defederated, with no chance of appeal, might only cause her to double down - or, if it does, they're counting on it.

From where I'm standing, she looks to be a scapegoat.

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"i never thought boobs would grow on my chest," exclaims woman who voted for the Boobs Growing on People's Chests Party

it might just be a phenomenon unique to my circles, but lately i've been thinking about the implicit social pressure for transfem folks to go non-op or otherwise revel in having a non-cisnormative genital configuration

and i think, what a horrible, wonderful problem for us to have

horrible in that, in the worst case, we may be exoticized, fetishized for something largely out of our control to a degree that can be exceedingly uncomfortable or even harmful - a sort of toxic positivity that paints over our lived experience because that apparently doesn't titillate our observers enough

wonderful in that i spent so long dealing with the inverse (but not opposite, per se; they're more like two sides of the same coin) sort of pressure - years of pressure to pursue SRS i didn't actually want or need to appease cisnormative assimiliationists. it's refreshing, in a complicated way, to shift away from that

@puppygirlhornypost2 oh, yes - at least, to a point. i do start to feel kind of bad for her after... y'know, several minutes of relentless teasing and bullying

your pronoun is "chat" now. please do not resist

i've caught you red-handed! now, admit that you're cute or i will be forced to deploy gentle headpats

i annoyed one of my friends yesterday by using the word “rizz” in a sentence as often as i reasonably could. she’s positively scandalized i even know the word

feel like i’m stating the obvious here, but doctors do not spontaneously manifest medical conditions into existence. the most a formal diagnosis will do for you is clarify or confirm the cause of effects that are themselves already evident

bro what bro i wasn’t insulting you bro all i did was comment on how you’re dressed bro and why your face looks like that bro and say something about your particular method of articulation bro don’t look at me like that bro i wasn’t mocking your goofy-ass name bro please believe me bro it was a joke bro it was situational comedy about why you and your friends are like that bro don’t hate me bro i’m just telling it like it is bro come on bro

do you know a neurotypical (NT)? their behaviors may be vexing, but with time and patience you can condition them into acting normal

when a NT tries to make “small talk,” remember this is actually their “subtle” way of doing a vibe check. due to their odd brains, NTs seek constant reassurance that they are safe from their enemies by performing this disruptive ritual

if one does this to you, respond brusquely with non sequiturs until they give up in frustration

i wamt to join the low self estem club, but i dunno if id be welcome