That meritocracy cop wants you to feel shame when someone is overwhelming you and you probably will. That shame is visceral, immediate, reflexive. Because you want to belong and be thought of and be cared for. It turns the beautiful things about what you want into a weapon you use against yourself again and again. Don't let it. Replace it. It's noxious and against our humanity to beat each other up with supposed intelligence. It's at the core of human society to collaborate instead.
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One of the best things you can do to kill the meritocracy cop in your head is to cultivate a visceral, immediate, reflexive distaste for people using bullying to claim genius -
One of the best things you can do to kill the meritocracy cop in your head is to cultivate a visceral, immediate, reflexive distaste for people using bullying to claim geniusOne of the best things you can do to kill the meritocracy cop in your head is to cultivate a visceral, immediate, reflexive distaste for people using bullying to claim genius
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Just to state the obvious (and sorry for even mentioning the guy, I try to keep it to a minimum, but):@inthehands yeah. I find it specifically about enforcing rules about women not having voice in our society too.
Instantly recognizable to so many women. How many of us have started to win an argument, shown evidence, or just dared be smart out loud and then watched the men around us suddenly make graphic sexual "jokes," find some reason to physically loom over us, make some absolutely out of pocket statement about how btw they could beat us up. This has happened to me so many times.
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I don't share networking posts lightly. But I just had such an interesting poignant call with someone who feels stuck in web dev freelancing but has an amazing background in theology, ethnography, analytical philosophy and is so struggling to be seen f...I don't share networking posts lightly. But I just had such an interesting poignant call with someone who feels stuck in web dev freelancing but has an amazing background in theology, ethnography, analytical philosophy and is so struggling to be seen for his immense systems thinking skills.
I wonder if anyone in my community here has recs for where he might look to network in human-centered communities in software that would value his experience in, as he put it, "metaphysical engineering"
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I like that I'm so consistent I can cite myself five separate times to make the point that "learning is a key part of technical problem-solving so we should probably stop being asshats about people doing it"some people: "even if you're not a solitary genius it's ok maybe! there's still room!"
me, a psychologist of achievement: "sorry I just can't bring myself to care that much about geniuses or design for them, kind of boring sorry"
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I like that I'm so consistent I can cite myself five separate times to make the point that "learning is a key part of technical problem-solving so we should probably stop being asshats about people doing it"AND, and -- I have recently put my finger on something that bothered me a lot and it's the "better but not quite there" stereotype that learning is only "cool and shiny learning" for developers if it's divergent thinking novel solution learning. Absolutely not. Imitative learning, social learning as reproduction of others' solutions, small modifications of others' solutions, is most of what we do when we problem solve on this planet probably.
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I like that I'm so consistent I can cite myself five separate times to make the point that "learning is a key part of technical problem-solving so we should probably stop being asshats about people doing it"Consistent/obsessive, potato potahto
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I like that I'm so consistent I can cite myself five separate times to make the point that "learning is a key part of technical problem-solving so we should probably stop being asshats about people doing it"I like that I'm so consistent I can cite myself five separate times to make the point that "learning is a key part of technical problem-solving so we should probably stop being asshats about people doing it"
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episode@inthehands I have a ton of sympathy with the people who worked hard in this area, it is absolutely not all to be discarded and there are really thoughtful people here not included in my critique, but the overall shape of what business in this area looks like and the rapid scaling of relatively untested interventions to huge workforces/and what those models are used to justify (like that all bias is "unconscious" which is flatly untrue) is a real failure of applied psychology imho
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episode@inthehands fun history when I started consulting in evidence science after leaving Google it became really clear to me that the biggest most legible thing to people about someone with my skills was that I could do implicit bias training/consulting. I did not believe in the efficacy of such training so I never did and lost a lot of potential money that way. It took a much longer slower time to build business but my gosh I'm glad because the science really caught up on this and affirmed it
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episodeIn case it's not clear my stance as a psychologist here is that just because something is an effect that we can study in a laboratory does not make it an ethical or efficacious intervention to run at scale
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episodeThe implicit bias training bit starts at about minute 23!
I've been fascinated by this topic since my first onboarding at a tech company where the implicit bias training they showed us had a room of hundreds of men around me trying to associate "woman" and "scientist" while I sat there like HEYYYY
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episodeThis being said, I think some of the statements about mirroring are a bit overblown people always love this effect, the research is a bit more complicated
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episodeAlso a nice chat about social cognition in the beginning here @gdinwiddie
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Some brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episodeSome brilliant folks working to move the world beyond "implicit bias training" on this episode
https://whyy.org/episodes/the-hidden-forces-that-shape-our-behavior/
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Reading a lot of cognitive science about problem solving and thinking over and over and over and over again how important -- I just want to scream I feel this so deeply -- it is to not ascribe complex human ability and collective innovation to any one ...Reading a lot of cognitive science about problem solving and thinking over and over and over and over again how important -- I just want to scream I feel this so deeply -- it is to not ascribe complex human ability and collective innovation to any one low level reductive "feature"
We need a resiliently non-ableist way to celebrate human innovation and to see how much individualism and ableism keeps us from recognizing the vast advantages of adaptability, innovation and social learning
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I listened to the first episode of the “Change, Technically” podcast from @grimalkina and @analog_ashley, and it was really hard not to spend the whole episode yelling out loud — either in vehement agreement, or to say “That but even more so! You’re no...@inthehands thank you so much 🥹🥹🥹 every episode we are working on our GO FURTHER haha! Love this
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There's an amount of psychology research that's put out pretty interesting stuff about LLMs/AI's impact on people's beliefs about their own abilities/and potential impact on identity threat at work, and I'm kind of surprised I don't see it shared aroun...There's an amount of psychology research that's put out pretty interesting stuff about LLMs/AI's impact on people's beliefs about their own abilities/and potential impact on identity threat at work, and I'm kind of surprised I don't see it shared around much in my tech circles compared to eg, kind of esoteric (that doesn't mean bad! Just not as accessible imho!) research from linguistics. It feels in my networks like most folks in software don't know or follow any psych researchers
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The price of connecting with each other and sharing our creativity with each other should not be that every action we take to connect is stripmined to enrich people who aren't creatorsThe price of connecting with each other and sharing our creativity with each other should not be that every action we take to connect is stripmined to enrich people who aren't creators
I do not have easy answers to the questions about data & predictive modeling in the world but I really believe that we have to start from a place of recognizing that connecting with each other and sharing our stories is SO powerful we're willing to use bad platforms to do it, and what do we do with that
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No one: Absolutely no one:John McWhorter: Joy is really just coded racismI think one of the great/beautiful challenges for us in thinking about valuing human achievement in our society is exactly on this -- how can we love, celebrate, elevate and marvel at amazing achievement but without calcifying into one way of seeing it, into overweighting those examples, into missing the layers of cumulative, collective intelligence, and into the aggregation of genius labels primarily to those with societal power. Big, big challenge