Respecters, people who fundamentally respect the boundaries of others, were also something I didn't understand. That's not to say I never met any, but if you're fucked up enough to not think you should HAVE boundaries, you can't really recognize other people respecting yours, because you can't see your own boundaries.

Realizing these people existed, while trying to start having my own boundaries, was wild. These are people who START with consent. Consent is a BASELINE. And it's mindblowing. Like, people would actually ask me for consent before sending me a picture of themselves. Crazy.

I love these people so much.

For most of my life, I thought abusers were the norm. People would just walk all over everything anywhere and it was like "pourous boundaries? No, you can't have ANY fucking boundaries." This is probably due to my BPD/Bipolar mom who put all that manipulation onto us.

Learning that this was not "normal" but "dangerous" didn't happen for me until I started transitioning and needed bodily autonomy… which is crazy.

I don't engage with those people anymore.

I'm realizing that there are basically three types of people when it comes to my boundaries.

Abusers, accepters, and respecters.

Took a hike even tho I’m wearing a miniskirt and thigh high socks without panties. Big mistake because now I desperately want to be naked in the forest.

@puppygirlhornypost2 That's the same evangelical bullshit. I'm sorry but much of what comes out of America comes from an evangelical framework that people have not taken even thirty seconds to self-evaluate about. Like there's so much "I went this way so everyone should because it's right" that fucking straight out of Puritan culture… the fuck outta here with that shit.

@puppygirlhornypost2 That's a core feminist issue because you wanting to get railed in a sun dress ON YOUR OWN FUCKING TERMS!

Like you ain't out here saying "This is what will make him happy." That shit's about what YOU want, and that was the supposed to be the entire fucking point!

(I'm so goddamn done with white second-wavers, I can't even…)

Feminism: "Women shouldn't have to wear dresses."

White Feminists: "Women should not ever wear dresses."

Black Feminists: "Bitch don't tell me what I can wear! The fuck you think you talkin to?!"

White Feminists: "They don't understand real feminism."

Every. Fucking. Time.

It's wild that women still think that other women presenting as stereotypically feminine is "enforcing misogynistic norms." It's as if POC lesbian feminists of the 80s and later never wrote anything.

But, then again, since all the women saying that are white, second-wave feminists who live in a racist, evangelical landscape, I guess they wouldn't know, because they never read anything.

Guess what, white bitches? Plenty of hold-the-mayo populations love their femininity. You're just a fucking white patriarchal shill.

Someone just asked me “are you a good girl?”

It’s a bit disturbing how much that question is fucking with me.

Because “good girl” to me would be out of my head where the evil fascist loves and controls every thought and action with super strict laws and everything locked down and hyper-regulated.

Being a “good girl” means existing in my body, existing in the moment, allowing myself, opening myself, freeing myself.

I can’t do that. At all. If I have any agency at all, then there is zero chance that will happen. The fascist has way too much control.

Which, I guess, is why I’m so interested in a full power exchange. I don’t want the power taken away from me, I want it taken away from the fucking Nazi in my head.

It’s fucking wild feeling like you just woke up to your life.

Like all that shit people did to you and you thought “if I just work on myself more they’ll stop” but no matter how much work you put in, they didn’t stop.

It’s fucking wild just one day being like “you know, I actually deserve better than that.”

I need a job that requires professional attire so that I can wear increasingly slutty outfits and push the bounds of professionalism

It’s telling how whenever someone brings up “family values” they describe a time when Black folk couldn’t drink from water fountains and women couldn’t open their own bank account.

@puppygirlhornypost2 unfucked. You?

The reason we say "Trans rights are human rights" is not to remind you that we are human, but to remind you that any human losing their right to exist means ANY HUMAN CAN LOSE THEIR RIGHT TO EXIST!